I feel so stupid. I posted like 5 questions about this guy I REALLY like and... He doesn't like me back. I mean, how was I stupid enough to think he could like me? I mean, I almost asked him out. And, I told all my friends about him. I really like him. I'm crying. He was like perfect! I wonder, if I was prettier, or skinnyer, would he like me? I'm starting to think I'm pretty, but I want to lose weight. I was down to 104(I'm 13 and 5'3) but I'm 120 now! http://www.myspace.com/thekatesteinberg -look at all the pictures. Why doesn't he like me? I mean, how will I get over him? I just met him this year, but I'm so in love with him. I KNOW it! I just hate it. I'm 13, I shouldn't like guys. I wanna just concentrate on school, or get a boyfriend, or something! I hate it.
2006-10-09 10:07:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my advice to you would be to keep working on yourself...on your confidence. u know why?? the Happier u are, the more Confident and Healthy and Positive u are, the more Attractive u will be to others!!!
1st of all, work on your appearance. obviously u don't feel comfortable w/ ur looks, so don't worry about that guy. worry about YOURSELF. exercise, work out, get new, flattering clothes, try a new hairstyle, play around w/ some makeup once in ahwile if ur allowed. just take care of your body, and health first. eat well, but not overindulge, make sure u are getting somem physical activity.
2nd, work on your Mind: study hard in school! learn more, read more, start developing your mind, how to think critically, how to write papers, how to Discuss w/ teachers and students!
3rd, work on your Relationships with family, friends, eventually other students and even strangers... u can meet cute boys thru friends of friends, brothers, etc.. so u always have to make sure you are Confident, Happy and Attractive to people... even if u don't "like " them, u can make new friends if u are a cool person u know?
once u work on ur looks, u will feel better..and once u work on your mind, u will feel smarter......that will HELP you meet new guys, so it is worth doing it. but u have to start Liking yourself FIRST before u meet new guys and "fall in love" w/ them.. u will be miserable forever if u keep feeling that u are ugly, or too fat, or whatever...so "fix" that first, and the better u feel, the less u will worry about it.
and remember, a guy should like u for who you are not ONLY cuz of ur looks. so if he's kinda lame, don't be sad...find someone who is really cool and actually is sweet, nice, and wants to go out with you. until then, focus on yourself!! u are worth it~~~
2006-10-09 10:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fret so much! With guys it's not about how you look or what you weigh! That is something that has been beat into our heads for some reason or other and we fall victim to mirrors. It really is that guys want confident and well put together girls. Girls who are outgoing and funny. If your only concern right now is getting a boyfriend then you are concerned about the wrong things! This looks like neediness and clingyness....(or however it's spelled) to a guy and that is definitely something they run from! You shouldn't really go after him either! Get to know yourself first and who you are. Ask yourself what you have to offer him! He may have all the things that you want, but what is that you have that is worth gold! And honey believe me, it ain't all about the looks! If you can't keep yourself entertained, then you surely won't keep your love interest entertained! Figure out what you like to do and focus on that this week! Oh yeah, you're only 13 so you have plenty of time to focus on relationships. Don't hang yourself up so much on one guy. Think about the other possibilities. And really, you are not in love only infatuated with what you think is perfect! Infatuation definitely is a strong feeling for someone, but it is not love!
2006-10-09 17:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by Kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A boy who doesn't like you could hardly be called "perfect".
He doesn't need a reason not to like you- and it doesn't change who you are, or that fact that in 10 years you won't even remember his name.
You don't love him, not really. Focus on school, get some hobbies, enjoy life, stop crying, and make the most out of your education and who you are. At 13 years old, he's not exactly husband material, so it really doesn't matter, though it feels like ti does.
Ask you mom to hang out with you and go do some fun stuff together. Boys aren't worth it when you're 13.
2006-10-09 17:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey first of all- there are probably a million reasons- There just might not be a connection, or maybe he is scared- or whatever the reason is- You cannot worry about it- some people are not meant to be. You dont need to worry about your appearance or any of that for some boy! Boys, men- they will come and go- you need to focus on being happy with who you are. I fell in love with this boy when I was 13 or so- and I have been in love with him since- I am 26. I dont see him hardly any more- we might talk once in a while- but he will always have my heart. but you need to focus on you- and being happy with yourself- Find some hobby's to distract you- or maybe go out with another guy- who knows, maybe your crush will come around!!
2006-10-09 17:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by shannon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, I know how you feel and it doesn't get any easier. All I know is that you're a beautiful girl and you need to take these let-downs and use them as learning curves. I know it sounds cliche but we all go through it (I'm only 16 - still there!) and it's just part of growing up into a well-rounded woman. I wouldn't lose weight just because one guy doesn't like you - if your weight affects a person's opinion of you, ditch them - it's not worth it! :) Hope I helped.
2006-10-09 17:13:45 · answer #5 · answered by yeraciba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhh, the wonderful world of hormones, girl it will hurt for a while but u'll feel better eventually and realise that its not all that important after all. in the end it doesnt even matter, if ur lucky you will find one guy and stay with him forever but as luck is a rare gift you'll probably get ur heart broken several times in ur life. just concerntrate on urself be a lil self indulgent and become confident, (guys love that ;)
2006-10-09 18:04:54 · answer #6 · answered by hezmack18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so not fat,and you are so pretty!!!
But if you really want to lose a little weight,
Then go to a work out gym.
Or join gymnastics,cheerleading,basketball.
Anything that is a sport.It gets you motavated,biulds your character,makes you lose alittle weight,and more.
But your not fat at all.
2006-10-09 17:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by Mica Claro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋