Do christian men lust, fantasize about other women..... even when they are in a strong relationship?

Question

This is the question, My boyfriend and I are both christians, we attend church together and we have a strong relationship wuth the lord and ourselves. We got into a huge fight saturday night about other females when it comes to him. I made the point that if he loved me he wouldnt be looking at other women and lusting, he said he looks at everyone and it normal to look around, he also sais when he looks at the opposite sex, its nothing sexually. hes a christian and i want to believe him, but something just tells me hes lying, and another thing...i asked him if their were naked women around would he get turned on, he said yeah b/c its a natral amn thing, but f he is a christian why would he lust, face emptation and want other women. thats how i see it. what should i do, and believe?, I'm confused about wha he says, and we talked about this issue for along time, that i didnt want to bring it up anymore b/c of the arguing...so does christian men lust and fantazise??????

Answer 1

Honey, men will always be men...
I would simply accept the fact that my man loves me, and, since he is a Christian, he will grow and mature in Christ. Christian men, for all that they share the same weaknesses as any other men, do make good husbands.
I wouldn't worry so much about mother nature, we all know what a b*tch she can be. Besides, let's be honest, here...are you seriously telling us that you NEVER look at a good-looking man, or fantasize about some imaginary lover? Women have a sexual nature, too, you know...yep, even us Christain gals have been known to turn our heads when we see a bit of that beefcake. Does that mean you want to run off with some other man, or even have an affair? Does that mean you won't be a good wife to your man?
(Good thing we have that Advocate with the Father, yeah?)
If your Sweetie loves you, why are you so insecure?

Answer 2

Christian Men And Lust

Answer 3

I love my wife very much and have been married for 6 years and have known her for almost 10. I still look at other women, I wouldn't say that I "lust" after them, but I look.

There is no harm in doing that - the harm comes from acting.

My wife also looks at other guys, and sometimes even comments, I do not feel like she is cheating on me for doing this.

My parents have been married for over 40 years and my dad still looks at other women. When I asked my mother if she feels threatened she said no.

I think you might need to re-evaluate your relationship with your boyfriend. If you feel insecure at this stage, you are in for a rude awakening later on.

Looking at or lusting after other women doesn't make anyone less of a Christian.

Answer 4

Unless he is a buddhist monk, he is subject to be tempted.
I think it is ok to be aroused by another women. But if he fantasizes, then I think it is not right.

It is some what animal instincts when a man aroused by a naked woman because it is the stimulant he exposed to.

But if he fantasizes about some other woman out of the blue, that is a different circumstances. That means he wants to pursue that idea.

Do you understand the differences ?

Answer 5

God made men to be turned on by sight. This is a very natural thing.

Yes some Christian men lust, and fantasize about other women. They are human. Self control is a learned behavior. It is not something we are born with. It can be very hard for a man to gain self control especially in our time. Everywhere they turn there are women to look at. Think about it. At the check out counter there are the books. The ads for products use sex to sell. Sexuality is everywhere including television programs, the internet, the catalogs that sell almost anything and also the radio with music.

"if he loved me he wouldnt be looking at other women and lusting, he said he looks at everyone and it normal to look around, he also sais when he looks at the opposite sex, its nothing sexually."

Whether it is sexual or not, it sounds like his behavior offends you. What if you told him instead, "if you respected me your behavior would reflect respect and I would feel comfortable around you."

Answer 6

Your husband is absolutely right. What's more, you should appreciate his honesty.

A persons appreciation of attractive members of the opposite sex does not vanish the moment they say "I do" (regardless of what religion they practise). What matters is whether or not (s)he acts on those impulses.

If you must put this in some sort of religious context, look at it as gods little way of testing relationships. It wouldn't be a very good test if the temptations weren't, well...., tempting would it?

Answer 7

I believe that it was given to us by God so that we don't sin, and have sex outside of wedlock. I appreciate your question. I asked my pastor that same thing when I was your age, and that is what he told me. It is better to satisfy yourself then to seek someone outside of the marriage bed to do it for you. Yes, the Fantasy idea may be more difficult coming from a male, but for me, I too did it to relieve stress, there wasn't much lust and fantasy going on with me either. Hope this helps and comforts your worries a little bit. Also try and pray to God yourself about it and listen, he will answer you through your conscience. Your sister is Christ

Answer 8

The human part of us naturally gets attracted to the opposite sex but once Love sets in, then sexual attraction to another woman is not a threat to the relationship.

This is not done by an act of will power. It is not a "sacrifice" we make for our partner. It's simply that Love trumps sex. It's way better and although sex was great, Love is so special that there is simply no comparison.

Answer 9

Christian men do everything in their power to control temptation. Consider Joseph who ran away from Potifer's wife when she begged him to lie down with her. King David made the mistake of not looking away when Bathsheba was bathing and it almost cost him his good relationship with God and it did cost him the life of his child and his good conscience after having her husband killed. These two examples should be constantly before any Christian person to show how we should act and what might happen if we don't act according to God's will. Self-control is one of the fruitages of the holy spirit and any person who does not have it should be praying in earnest that God will grant them more of it so they do not sin in this regard.

Answer 10

Yes they do, why there is confession. Nobody is without sin and God forgives you if you are truly repentant. If you or him find yourself lusting you need to stop and ask for forgiveness (and mean it). If you just continue to do it and not feel guilty it is a SIN!!! And you will go to hell. But to say it NEVER happens is also not the truth, it does. It's how we deal with it that matters.