i am 22 and i've never had a boyfriend
yesterday my only best friend said somthing that touched me , she said: "lower ur expectations or you won't find anyone"
but why?
i dont want to be with someone who cheats on me, who is not my type or he is not cute, smart ,sexy and nice enough for me...
is she right?
i am lost, i do want to have a boyfriend, but right now i dont have anyone in mind that i trully like or see as my future bf, so should i lower them or stick to my morals and norms?
thanks
2006-10-09 09:53:20 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmm. Here is my advice. Don't compromise on personality traits like honesty, fidelity, morality, intelligence, etc. Be open to discovering who you are attracted to, though. I used to only date men that were "model" types. Very good looking, very big, well built, etc. Then I met a guy who I totally didn't think was my "type"... turns out I had more chemistry and physical connection with him than I had EVER had with anyone else! You may be surprised at how "sexy" and "cute" you can find someone you would have never expected to! No compromising needed! Just an attitude adjustment. Keep in mind, you never know until you try. Get out there and do some dating. Figure out what you like. "Waiting" for the right person is just going to make you completely unprepared for a relationship in the future. You have a LOT of learning to do. Get out there and do it!
2006-10-09 10:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by stillstanding 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be more willing to compromise your expectations, not lower them completely. Things like someone who won't cheat or someone who is a jerk, or someone you're completely not compatible with are things you should definitely not change. However, a relationship is not all about looks, and sometimes a great guy may be slightly out of your "type." Just be more open to different guys. You never know how something is going to work out until you try it.
Good luck :)
2006-10-09 09:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really have to lower your expectations, because when love comes along their "sex appeal" and whatever else you listed might not matter as much as you thought (though the cheater part would, but just keep an eye out for that one!!!). When love hits you, it'll all just fall into place.
2006-10-09 10:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by No O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋