he wants to see me with another girl, but I've always objected because I thought that he would have sex with her too. He says that it's just for him to watch me with her, and he wouldn't touch her. He was surprised that I even thought he would have her. Anybody with experience here? We decided to ask a girl from a bar to come home with us.
2006-10-09 09:49:39 · 30 answers · asked by HotK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I thought 3 somes meant the guy had sex with both girls? I would not be open to that, but I am as long as he doesn't have sex with the other woman.
2006-10-09 09:52:46 · update #1
We have been to strip clubs together, and that doesn't bother me at all. I think I had more fun than he did!!
2006-10-09 09:54:06 · update #2
My first threesome was with a girl and my BF ... we both agreed that we can all play but he can't penetrate ... nothing wrong with that ... we all fooled around ... I played with him while she played with me ... he played with me while I played with her ... it worked out great ... the only problem was ... the next morning he thought I enjoyed my play time a little too much .. and HE got jealous ... strange to me since I would never date a woman ... but in the back of his mind all he could think about was me leaving him for some hot chick ... !
As long as you keep communication open and you both trust each other ... then I don't see the problem here ... go have a few drinks ... make out with the chick for awhile ... sleep together and let your man play too ... he doesn't have to have sex with her to enjoy it too ... and if he was smart ... he would be playing by the rules or not playing at all ... lol ... !
2006-10-09 10:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
okay, NO!!! a 3some is just a way of telling you he wants more from you, so another girl will be like one fisty one. Use large mirriors on the way and play some music with women singing. This will make the illusion that another woman is there. And this will make him fell better. But, don't be pressured into anything not worth doing. If you did this with a stranger of all people, then he might hook up with her, or think she's hotter! and you probably don't wanna risk that! So ask him WHY he wants this, and give him the REAL you!
2006-10-09 16:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by Advice Goddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do this only if YOU are comfortable doing it and if YOU want to do it.
You should not be pressured to do this just because your boyfriend wants to.
Technically, if he only wants to watch, it's not a threesome, is it?
That's why I am 90% sure that he will have sex with the other girl with or without you knowing about it (unless, I suppose, you get a lesbian who is attracted to you only).
This is no sin but it will harm your relationship. Then again, perhaps this guy isn't the right guy for you.
2006-10-09 16:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by errant_hero 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this all too well. It always turns out bad. Your bf will be a jerk after it happens, trust me. If the girl is a bad lay, then it's worse. He will want to touch her and you so, be safe and don't pick a scanky slut. Do what you think is best, but he will still be with you even if you say no. If you say yes, it could backfire. Follow your instincts and be careful of the consequences.
2006-10-09 16:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by stickinthemud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm always open to 3 somes but the problem was we could never figure out where to get the girl because you can't tell if someone has an STD by looking at them and it's kind of rude to ask if they have any...
Friends are a definite no no as well because that's awkward...
2006-10-09 16:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea - no matter what your guy says....things could happen in the heat of the moment. You sound unsure....otherwise you wouldn't be asking a question of a bunch of strangers on a computer board. Repeat...bad idea. Now, if you do go ahead...make sure everybody knows the rules OK? That includes you, your bf and the third party girl...
2006-10-09 16:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you see your bf even in the same room with another girl? How would that make you feel? You might come to resent him and regret the whole thing I advise against it. But if you can handle all the thoughts that will go through your head go for it.
2006-10-09 16:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by Shelley R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every guy has this fantasy. We all want to try it at least once.
As for the bar: if you find itin a bar leave it in a bar. That's a good way to pick up something you don't want or need (like herpes or AIDS.)
You would do better to find anther girl that is interested in trying with you that you know and can trust.
Try it you might just enjoy yourself.
2006-10-09 16:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by my_iq_135 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u think that a guy is not gonna make an attempt 2 touch another girl u really need 2 move out of the trailer park honey, how about u ask if he would mind SHARING u with another guy, watch how quick it gets dismissed,trust me he will find a way 2 get involved with that other girl trust me I AM A MAN!
2006-10-09 16:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by q45dip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see... You and your boyfriend have such a stable relationship that he wants to see you having sex with another female, but promises he won't touch the other girl...
HELLO!!! He wants you to be a lesbian? What kind of future relationship do you expect with this guy? Why involve YOURSELF with another person in a relationship? What's next?
Will he, in turn, have sex with another guy so you can see if you think it is hot? Obviously, this lesbian action is supposed to strengthen YOUR relationship with HIM. Then will your having sex with TWO women strengthen it even more.
I do not follow this line of reasoning that having another UNKNOWN person in your relationship with a guy is supposed to strengthen it? If it is doing nothing to strengthen it, why would you pursue it?
You need to rethink what is going on here!!!
2006-10-09 16:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋