Like three months ago I meet this guy. Over labor day weekend we went to San Deigo together. We talked about being in a relationship but he doesn't want to be in one right now because of school. We do something or spend together almost everyweekend and it is turning into a friends with benefits kinda thing. i am beginning to have feelings for him what should I do?
2006-10-09 09:47:13 · 4 answers · asked by shell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, just as a warning, I am really sorry, because I don't have much to say that you are going to like. But. You asked, so here is my answer.
He doesn't want a relationship with you. You are convenient, and fun, and you make him happy when you are around, but you are not what he is looking for in a long term relationship. Sometimes, this can be really hard for a guy to even ARTICULATE. He may not KNOW what it is he wants that you don't have. He just knows he doesn't want to be with you. By making yourself available, he is "taking advantage" of the situation, since he gets to hang out with a fun friend AND gets to play with her in bed. You are gonna get HURT, girl. GET OUT. And be honest with him. Tell him you know how he feels, but you have too strong of feelings for him, and can't allow yourself to stay when you know he can't give you what you need/want. Find some other friends PRONTO to fill up your time, or some new hobbies, or ANYTHING. Anything to keep you away from him. Delete his number from your phone, don't text, don't email... you have to make a clean break from him, or you will never ever get over him. I am really REALLY sorry.
2006-10-09 09:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by stillstanding 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop the feelings now! Once you start being friends with benefits, there is no better solution in the guys mind. Anything that happens from there he will think is actually worse for him. If he wants a relationship, thats 1 thing, but if he is getting some from someone else, as well as you, he is definately going to want to stay friends with benefits.
2006-10-09 16:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by pimpn240sx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you forget the friends with benefits thing and wait for a guy to come along who will return your affections. Right now, you obviously are enjoying his company and want more, but it's not likely to happen. Trust me, to him, it's just sex without commitment. Continue on your current course and you will most likely end up heartbroken.
2006-10-09 16:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep doing what your doing until it get old. Something has to give eventually. Try to hang in there without letting him know any different. Both of you are having fun, why ruin it? Enjoy while it lasts.
2006-10-09 16:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by stickinthemud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋