How can I break this?
2006-10-09 09:46:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Oh heck yea......and guess what, dear mama....it's only gonna get worse. Well, they delight in being clever, after all, their testing the limits of their mobility and independence. If they can pull one over on you, the sweeter it is. I used to use reverse psychology -- "ah, little man, i see you've got quite a mess here...i bet you can't put it all back in the toybox though" -- if they didn't take the bait (the challenge - they love to prove you wrong), (or it wore off) -- then up the ante -- i'd say, oh, you won't like me when i turn into the mama monster....the only way to get rid of the mama monster is ___________ (whatever the little sprite did - only in reverse.) the mama monster usually liked to hug them and kiss them, and hold them in her lap, and not let them go.....and since they were allergic to that sort of confinement...lol -- the little go getters would try, anyway, to put it in reverse. Good luck! My kids still talk about it and laugh!
2006-10-09 10:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by amuse4you 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, absolutely!!!! Kids learn at a very young age how to manipulate things, from objects to people. That's how they learn.
For example, a 2 year old may comprehend that if they push a button on a toy, it will light up and play fun music. Thus, the child will continue to push that button if they like the lights and the music.
Same thing goes for manipulating other objects and people. Unfortunately, there is no one answer to completely stop these manipulations but the best thing is to teach the child that they are not going to get the results they are looking for.
For example, if they whine to get something they want, tell them (in very short details, now they're only 2 years old and have small attention spans) that if they want something, they have to ask nicely or at least just say "please." or something like that. Just get the point across as simple as possible that however they're trying to manipulate you, it's not going to work. i.e., asking Grandma for cookies after you already told them no, means you are still going to get "no" for an answer, etc, etc.
2006-10-09 09:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by jennnnn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes. at the age of two children are able to try to manipulate you. Stand your ground and let your child know that you are the boss. You can always go to babycenter.com and get more info about the exact manipulative issues you have with your child. They have some great advice. Good Luck
2006-10-09 09:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids as well as adults are manipulative. I thinks it's in our genes. The best way to break this behavior is to not give in... one your child know that you are strong he can no longer be manipulative to get his way. Hold on tight though... by the time you feel your childs broke from this awful stage you will be at your wits end and on the verge of a nervous breakdown! Be strong and good luck!
2006-10-09 10:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by SoCcEr AnGeL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH yeah. Our daughter started before she was 1. She wanted cake, and I got kisses. If I didn't give it to her, she gave Mommy kisses. Uh huh... :-|
Communication is the key. Make sure you and anyone else involved in parenting agree to enforce one set of rules. Make sure she knows the rules. At 2 she's a lot smarter than she'll admit to you. But in the end all parents have to be consistent and a united front. If one says "no" - both say "no" - even if you disagree. Talk to your partner first before you give in.
Best parenting advice I've heard came from a cashier at the grocery store: Kid was begging - I mean PLEADING for candy. Mother said no. Then no again. Then no again. Then, OK, but make it quick. After she left, the cashier smiled and said "they wouldn't beg like that if it didn't work. I can always tell who the wishy washy parents are. Kids with tough parents never ask more than once."
Parenting requires a titanium spine.
2006-10-10 08:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by itsnotarealname 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is very possible for a two year old to be manipulative. You need to stop giving in to her.
2006-10-09 09:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by suz' 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah it is! Just don't give in to the manipulations no matter how much she screams, begs, cries, or how big of tantrum she throws. She needs to learn now that you can't get much of anywhere in life by manipulating and that it doesn't work in your home.
2006-10-09 10:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by d4cav_dragoons_wife84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES- Most definitely!
Mine is the worst!! But I've finally started putting my foot down. I should have sooner but hindsight is 20/20!
Just little things she'll do- like she'd drink a gallon milk if I let her. She used to pitch a fit for 'more milk' and scream and cry if I didn't give it to her. Finally, I was like NO!! She'd try some more but she would start cracking smiles...*L* She knew what she was doing!
2006-10-09 10:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by Alison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very possible. Children this young know exactly what buttons to press, and this can make them very much the boss. It can be broken though. You need to stay calm and make sure you don't show any attention to the behaviour that you don't want, and praise all the behaviour that you want to see repeated.
It's hard, but you can do it!
2006-10-09 10:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!! Once they learn what buttons to push they'll get you every time. My daughter is two and she is rotten and my son will be a year old on the 27th and he is learning well from her.
Not sure how to break them from it though. You just gotta show them whose boss.
Good luck.
2006-10-09 10:48:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋