bed wetting.?

Question

My daughter who is 7 years old still wets bed. By now she is getting very self-conscious about this and is asking me to help her stop. Together she and I have tried all we can possibly think of. I have taken her to the doctor. (she is fine heath wise and they say it will just take time) We try not to drink anything 2 hours before bedtime. We even have every alarm in the house sat at different times so we can get up to go to the bathroom every few hours. But still, most mornings she is waking up wet!! I feel so badly for her as she wants to get control of this. She wants to be able to sleep away from home on occations without being embaressed ect. It kills me to see her want this so much and not be able to help her overcome it. Any suggestions???

Thanks to all who have answered my question. I read your comments to my daughter and it made her feel better to know she was not the only person with this problem and that people cared about it. She has been working extra hard since I read her these and we have had 2 nights of dryness. YAAAAAA!! Thank you all again!

Answer 1

Please consider this response.

You haven't done the one thing that is the best cure for children six and up who wet the bed. Use a bedwetting alarm. Unfortunately, many physicians, are still unaware that an inexpensive little device can cure more than 80% of children in 8 to 12 weeks - permanently.

Almost all children who wet are VERY DEEP sleepers and rarely awaken to alarms - even fire alarms. However, that doesn't mean a bedwetting alarm won't work. Unlike the alarm clocks - which most parents have tried - the bedwetting alarms go off when your child is wetting. This is very important because that is when your bladder is telling your brain - go to the toilet. When her bladder gets full during the day she receives the signal and knows what to do - go to the toilet. At night, she sleeps through it. An alarm clock, or your waking her before you go to bed, is just a random awakening. Her bladder may not be "telling" her that she needs to go to the toilet. That is why an alarm must go off when she is wetting.

The alarm is used to gradually condition her to recognize the signal from her bladder and sleep dry through the night. At first, she will likely sleep through the alarm. After a few days or few weeks, she will wet less and less as she begins to learn. People who say that bedwetting alarms don't work usually just don't understand how to use them.

Again, please do you and your daughter a favor and at least read more about how these alarms work. Tell your doctor to look up the new articles in Contempory Pediatrics or the American Family Physician Journal that have come out in the past year. The evidence is clear - a bedwetting alarm used properly will get most children to dryness in several weeks.

Your Friendly Pharmacist......

Answer 2

I wet the bed until I was 10. But even worse my mom did till she was 12. They make a pill that you take right before bedtime and it really worked most of the time on me. I hated and i know how she feels. It is an awful feeling. When she goes to an overnight, for now you would want to give the pill to the parent. But as she gets older you could let her take it by herself "just in case" for sleepovers. Its actually a really common condition that happens. What your doing you should also keep up. Even if she does go on this pill. No drinks 2 hrs. prior to bedtime, and always try to get her up just once at least. Good luck! And if you have any further questions or need advice feel free to email me: [e-mail] She will get through this it doesn't last 4ever.

Answer 3

Try going to no more drinks after supper, or 4 hours before bed, this might help. Is she afraid of the dark or hesitant to get out of bed, for some reason? Nite-lite, maybe a camping porta-potty near her bed so she doesn't have to go far. Some beverages make you urinate more - lemonade, cranberry juice, iced tea, colas....should all be avoided, period. Tell her to be patient, some kids take longer than others and it's just okay. Reinforce that she isn't abnormal, and that it isn't her fault. Try to keep a schedule of WHEN she wets, if you're checking on her frequently, and try to get her to go to the bathroom 30 minutes before that time the next night.

Answer 4

You have two choices:

(1) wait until she grows out of it, put up with the disposables, laundry, missed sleepovers and low self esteem OR
(2) get a bedwetting alarm to help her get dry permanently.

Unfortunately, my doctor kept telling me and my daughter to "not worry about it, she will eventually out grow it" until she was 14!!! I got an alarm and she was dry in a little over two months. Why in heavens don't more doctors and people recommend these things more.

Don't wait any longer. Just put an end to it now. Simply search on "bedwetting alarm" on yahoo. We used a Malem alarm that vibrated and sounded - since she was such a deep sleeper.

Again, don't wait.......

Answer 5

i am 16 and i still wet the bed some nights, she is fine, as the doctors said it will take time. i use the goodnites pants they work great and look like underwear. go to goodnites.com and click on the parents link you will find a lot of info there. there is also a place where you can ask questions to a board of parents who had/have bedwetting kids.

Answer 6

I am having the same problem with my 7 year old son and it is very frustrating because I also do not allow him to have nothing to drink before bed and he wakes up and he has another accident.

I'm constantly washing his sheets and I am going to have to buy a new mattress because I do not have a protective sheet underneath.. He is too old for this but I have heard of this with one of my friends children and eventually he will stopped. Don;t worry just try to motivate your daughter because she seems too want to stop.. As for my son, he does not seem to care...
Good Luck!!!!

Answer 7

Bedwetting alarm. I agree. I recommend them for all my patients with bedwetting. The Malem alarms are the best.

Answer 8

sounds like an overactive bladder. or maybe a weak vaginal wall?

as wierd as this may sound (without actually asking a doctor) but try having her do kegels. this will strengnthen her PC which control her urine flow.

Answer 9

put her papers so the bad dosent or get put plastic on the bed or have chart with gold stars
and evrey time she doesnt wet the bed she gets a gold star and those stars let her go cool places and get cool toys

Answer 10

Some kids actually need surgery to correct it. My niece was the same way, everything they tried wouldn't work. She had surgery and is good now.