okay so we bin 'seeing each other' for over 4 months now. we have ups n downs n fights n stuff. he has a gf which i knew about before i got involved. we haven't discussed where we stand with each other. our schedules clash pretty bad so we've only ever had sex like 7 times in 4 months. a guy who hates him told me that he's the kinda guy who'll c like 3 girls in 1 day but i know he doesn't have the time 2 b doin that now. is this length of 'relationship' or even the type (with arguments n all) even normal for a player? I don't need to hear bout how wat i'm doin is wrong. got dat msg already. I'm in the situation. Not plannin on gettin out anytime soon unless the sex starts suckin (highly unlikely). Jus wanna know if this is normal or whether we seem 2 have moved up a level without either of us acknowledging it.
2006-10-09 09:17:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a friend that has a girlfriend and we have been seeing each other for 3 years. Anything is possible.
2006-10-09 09:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by beautiful_blue_eyed_bbw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(Sorry for the occasional all-caps; I don't know how to include boldface and italics.)
Many people are monogamous; but many others have open, honest, multiple relationships, with everyone's consent and considering everyone's needs.
It doesn't matter whether other people have relationships just like yours. What matters is WHETHER THE RELATIONSHIP IS GOOD FOR YOU.
Does he treat you with respect and kindness? Does he look out for your best interests? Is he supportive of you? Does he make you feel good about yourself?
Is he honest about all of his other partners? Also, are you free to see other partners?
When the two of you have arguments, do you concentrate on the issues and your own emotions and reactions ("when ____ happens, I feel _____") rather than generalizing, blaming, or putting down the whole person ("you always ..." / "you never..." / "you make me..." / "you worthless ____!")?
GREAT SEX ISN'T WORTH BEING TREATED LIKE $#!t. But if a relationship is built on honesty and respect, it doesn't matter how "traditional" or not it is.
2006-10-09 09:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by Consider This... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, lady. I understand what you are saying. I would say it IS a little weird that you guys are arguing, seeing as how you both know what you want out of it. What do you argue about? Seems silly to fight, when you are supposed to just be having fun. Find someone else you can "be" with that isn't so danged STRESSFUL. Sex is supposed to be FUN, not stressful. And don't even CONSIDER getting in a relationship with someone who cheats like that. Well, actually... I guess YOU cheat like that. Heck, I don't know. Do what you want.
2006-10-09 10:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by stillstanding 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all you are the chick on the side and that is the place you chose and that is the place you will stay in. So now that we alll know where you stand ( one question answered).This type of relationship is very normal for a guy who doesn't give a f**k, he doesn't or won't give you any type of explanations about why he does what he does because you knew what you were getting into when you f**k around with him in the 1st place.
2006-10-09 09:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by cody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say that your "relationship" is strictly "booty call". if he is seeing three other women at the same time, you had better watch for stds. sex is not where it all is. if you are fighting, it is because he has major committment issues and he is getting a vibe from you that you want more. that is what players do. they try to make you walk. that way their record stays clean....they never consider you anything but a sex toy.
2006-10-09 09:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by Tori H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's best you find someone that you can call your own because your just another way for him to bust a nut and am pretty sure he's thinking to him him why should he ever by the cow wen he can get the milk FREE beside yall could never have a relationship because if he's sexing you on his gf who will he be sexing on YOU.
2006-10-09 09:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you're being used. He has a gf, you're just the candy on the side. Moved up? Not hardly.
2006-10-09 09:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey if the sex is good why nto just stay together maby you have moved up or maby its just like a friends with benefits thing
2006-10-09 09:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by unkown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
silly girl is right
2006-10-09 09:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋