I really like this girl, and if she would agree to be my girlfriend after the dance were going to this weekend, and she started really getting happy and stuff, what is a good alternative to sex? I'm the kind of kid that no one expects me to want this, but I sort of do. I don't want any unplanned pregnancies, so I don't want the sex. What other things can you do that sort of...simulate sex, but has none of the consequences that can be brought with sex?
2006-10-09 09:09:53 · 18 answers · asked by BloodyCarrion 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well, if she really wants to have sex and thats it, maybe she's not the girl for you. You should talk to her about how you feel. She might not even want to have sex at all. But there are plent alternatives to sex, like just hanging out. If you dont want to have sex then stay around people. DONT put yourself in a position where you will be tempted to have sex. Dont stay in rooms by yourselves, because you may think youre strong, but the second youre alone, everything changes. Theres always oral sex, but theres strings attached to that too. Like STD's and you'll be even more tempted to have sex if you start that. If you want to have sex, but you dont want STD's and unplanned pregnancy, she can go on birth control and you should still where condoms, but there is still a risk. So those are all the things I can think of. The decision is up to you. Good Luck.
2006-10-09 09:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by Princess Sheri 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, someone said that anal or oral sex can cause pregnancy and that is not true. STDs can be spread but pregnancy will not occur.
From the way your form your question and the fact you are going to a school dance, it sounds like you are pretty young and in high school. I think sexual activities should be the farthest from your mind. If you do not know what can cause pregnancy and what cannot; if you do not know about sexually transmitted diseases; if you cannot simply state that you want sexual pleasure without blushing and stuttering then you should not be thinking of bringing this up with a girl.
Nothing can simulate sex without the consequences of sex. Oral sex and anal sex can spread disease. If you masturbate yourself and she masturbates herself, that seems like the safest way for you to be consequence free of sex.
However, if she isn't even your girlfriend yet, I have a hard time imagining you are going to be in the situation where she will want to celebrate by even letting you touch her boob under her shirt so you can lick her nipples. Whatever you and she decide to do, be careful.
2006-10-09 09:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by pinklipstick_ab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is 100% safe,there are things that you can do that won't get her pregnant{as some people said Oral sex and so on} but these carry the risk or STDs.I'm not sure how old you are but there is nothing wrong with a little hugging and kissing.Lets not forget the old standard of over the clothes Petting{touching} This was always a great stand by.
2006-10-09 09:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by blue_eyed_brat78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD FOR YOU!!!
The bible says don't have sex outside of marrige. Don't listen to these other people. Don't do oral sex either. It's sex and I can prove it, it has the word sex in it. Just hold hands take her to the movies. Don't watch porn. Don't suck on her **** like some said. It's not sex but it's in referance to sex. You are truly a good kid. Listen to God. Let God handle this stuff. He can make everything work out. She may break-up with you, but it's all in God's plans.
2006-10-09 09:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by Jesus Freak!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT TILL MARRIAGE IS THE ONLY RIGHT WAY TO GO
DONT BE STUPID LIKE SOME IN BE AS DIRTY AND TRIFLIN AS THEY SPEAK
SEX IS NOT SOME GAME
IT CAN COST U YOUR LIFE AND FREEDOM JUST THINK IF THIS CHICKS SNAPS IN SAY HE RAPED ME
WELL BUDDY YOUR GOING TO JAIL BECAUSE U WERE WITH HER THAT NIGHT
U SEMEN IS ON HER AND HER VAGINAL AREA IS A LIL IRRITATED IS IT WORTH IT
DO NOT ASK FOR ORAL SEX
SHE WILL PUNCH U AND REALLY START TO DISLIKE U
THATS NASTY AND DISREPECTFUL AND IF SHE HAS ANY KIND OF RESPECT FOR HERSELF SHE'D BEAT THE HE11 OF OF U AND LEAVE
TALK TO HER FIND OUT WHAT SHE LIKES SEX CAN WAIT
A DATE DOES NOT HAVE TO END UP IN SEX
BECAUSE STD'S CAN KILL U NOW AND PREGNANCIES ARE BEING TERMINATED AS IF THEYR'E OK WHEN THEY ARE NOT BECAUSE U ACT BEFORE U THINK
TALK WATCH SOME PORN AND SPEND TIME BEFORE U HAVE SEX
AND REMMEBER A.I.D.S CAN SET IN YOUR SYSTEM A YEAR BEFORE IT SHOWS ANY SIGNS
SO IF SHE HAS HAD PARTNERS RECENTLY U REALLY NEED TO WAIT AND THE SAME FOR U WAIT BECAUE YOUR LIFE IS NOT WORTH 4-5 HOURS OF SWEAT AD SCREAMING
BE SMART
U DONT NEED SEX TO BE A MAN NOR ENJOY SOMEONE
IF U CARE ABOUT HER YOU'LL MAKE SURE U TWO WAIT ATEAST 8-12 MONTHS BEFORE INTERCOURSE KISSING CAN EVEN CAUSE A LIFE THREATENING DISEASE NOW
SO JUST BECAREFUL
AND I NOTICE MANY OF THEM ARE SAYING ORAL SEX THATS EVEN WORSE
THE GENITALS EXERT SECRETIONS MEANING DOODOO
URINE
WET BROWN YELLOWISH SPERM
AND EATING OUT ONE TIME CAN KILL U DONT BELIEVE IT LOOK IT UP
IF U EAT SOMEONE OUT AND THERE IS ONE TINY PARTICLE IN THERE SPERM U ARE ALLERGIC TO IT CAN KILL U INSTANTLY
FINGERING WHAT INTELLIGENT PERSON STICKS THERE
FINGER IN SOMEONE C00CHIE
C'MON GET REAL AND WAIT
SEX DONT MAKE THE WORLD GO ROUND
BUT AN STD CAN TAKE U OUT THIS WORLD TOMMOROW
GOOD LUCK
2006-10-09 13:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by SWEET S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that. If she doesnt respect that, then she isn't the one for you. You can have fun lots of other ways. Talking is a good alternative. Once you tell her why you don't want to, she should understand and give you her opinion. The conversation will take off from there. Good luck.
2006-10-09 09:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by ~jenn~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are no sexual acts that are completely safe. Pregnancy might not be an issue but you can still get a variety of sexually transmitted diseases without sexual intercourse. My advice is to slow down. You just started dating. Hold her hand, cuddle, and for God sake get to know each other before you jump to the hot and heavy.
2006-10-09 09:14:09 · answer #7 · answered by cathcoug 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, Good For You!! It's refreshing to see a responsible man with priorities!!
Second, What's with all the BJ stuff?? How about you go down on her!? She may need some stimulation/satisfaction as well. It's not only about the man getting off.
2006-10-09 09:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by SheDontKnow 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you plan these sort of things, it will be awkward. Just let nature take its course!
2006-10-09 09:14:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use a condom or just have her give u head and u finger her but wat do i kno i have a 2 year old son and im 7 months pregnant wit my daughter so i wouldnt listen to me lol
2006-10-09 09:51:14 · answer #10 · answered by Amber E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋