Ladies only please. Regarding obsessive men you have dated.?

Question

Is it possible for a man to regain the respect that may have been lost to you by coming across as a little too insecure or desperate? Revealed feelings too fast, called / texted too much, bought gifts too fast, etc. Basically I think maybe I have been too nice. But that's just the way I am.

Anyway, if I can regain it how do I do it? Just back way off and be patient about contacting her? Let time take care of it?

You see, I think I've gone a little overboard with someone emotionally (nothing physical) and I'm wondering if I am forever branded as too needy with her. I never cried to her or told her that I loved her or anything, but I opened up too fast and too much. I know that now, but I just wonder if irreparrable damage is done. I know she was attracted to me at one time, but now I don't know anymore. I think I've scared her away.

Is there hope for us in the future?

Thanks, ladies!

Answer 1

it depends on the woman, i can't answer for her. but if it was me i think i would have written you off already, just being honest. if you come across as too needy and desperate it's usually because you are too needy and desperate and need to work on yourself before jumping into relationships. but you also sound like a nice guy so maybe you still have a chance

Answer 2

I can give you my answer - but remember, this one has a lot of variables.

I've been with a few guys I considered "too nice" - including the one I'm dating right now. Do you feel a real connection with your lady? Those are rare and usually mutual. Comfort and compatability will usually inspire a girl to give her man some time and patience.

If you haven't used the "l-word" or gone over the top, you should be fine. It's more likely she's scared your enthusiasm is not real.

Give her a little room, then take her somewhere fun and crowded like a sports game or a tourist attraction. That will keep the date casual and show that you're not as intense as you may seem right now. Ask her out again, this time somewhere more intimate, and keep the conversation light. Try to ask her about herself, but listen to her and smile rather than telling her she or her accomplishments are amazing. If she tries to change the subject to you or asks about you, then go with it - be humble, but let her get to know all sides of you.

She may feel comfortable enough to open up to you about her feelings, which will level the playing field. Otherwise, be patient - but don't smother her.

We're fickle creatures, but we're also very indecisive. She'll probably give you a few more chances.

Answer 3

You should give her some time and then you should call her out of the blue and say just what you just shared. That you have never met anyone like her and you found yourself acting not at all like yourself. But that you hated the thought of your behavior making a permanent impression. After the discussion, you should know a little more where she is at as well. Then you should tell her that you'll let her think about things and to call you if she's interested in hanging out. Then just chill and give her time. Don't call her. It may take awhile, but be patient. Good luck.

Answer 4

yes you can regain her respect... give her some time and when you do contact her let her know that you realize that you may have been moving to fast emotionally. if she doesnt respond in a good way then maybe it wasnt meant to be... if she changes her mind she will be the one to contact you... DO NOT continue to contact her because it DOES NOT make you look any less obsessive!

Answer 5

Is it possible? Yes. Is it easy? No. ...not if you're really attracted to her and think of her constantly. You need to practice patience and restraint. Time spent talking to her is important, but balance that time with other activities away from her so that your time is duly-occupied and will keep your mind off of her and make you seem less obsessed.

If you think she may be freaked out by your initial approach or behavior, apologize for coming on so strong, but explain your behavior by telling her how excited you are to meet someone as nice as her...flattery works as long as it's sincere...
Good luck!

Answer 6

i did not see the unique question...yet my purely confusing-and-quickly rule is: do not date adult males who've young ones and don't see them. If a guy does not have any get right of entry to to his babies, it is using fact he the two does not care or has some criminal rationalization why he's not allowed to ascertain them. every person who only says "My ex won't enable me see them" yet fails to offer any data that he's made each and every criminal attempt to realize this falls into the 1st classification. I sympathize if his ex is a psycho, yet whilst his own soreness is extra important than the emotional properly being of the babies he made, then i might want not something to do with him. We at present share custody of my husband's women from his previous marriage. i don't understand if i might have sought to be an entire-time ascertain to my husband's babies...yet using fact it is a few thing women human beings generally assume adult males to do in style, I meant i might ought to greenback up and do it. My husband may be properly worth it.

Answer 7

let her come to u. call her like every other day. let her no that u r there for her, when she needs it. tell her that u feel like u meesed up and scared her away. then she'll realize that u didn't mean to b needy- u just were being nice.

Answer 8

The needy ones are a big turn off....but as u said in ur case, i think theres is still hope.....

Answer 9

u should try to leave her alone then later talk to her if being too nice is making her run away? if not shell think ur a total creep!

Answer 10

I think it's cute when men sometmes goes out of their way to show you how much they care and if someone dosen't appreciate that then they are not worth of you!!!