I have been with my boyfriend 1in a half years. He is 24 and I am 27? How long do you stay if he doesn't ask you to marry him? He knows that I want to get married and have a family and we both agree that we never want to get divorced.
2006-10-09 09:07:50 · 16 answers · asked by yrunosy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to just hang in there and wait, I am 27 I was with my fiance for 3 years before he purposed, and I thought he woulde never ask but he did some guys are weird and just take longer then other and now look I have been enggaged for 2 years and still we are waiting to agree on the date, and plus I don't like his family and he hates mine, but we love each other so much its crazy!!1
Good Luck hang in there and do not push the subject and force him that would be your down fall later!
2006-10-09 09:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Christine O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would maybe wait another year or so to find out how things go. Just take notice of how things are starting to turn out, with how you feel about him or if your feelings change for him over time.
Don't stay with him if you are already starting to notice things about him that annoy you or that you wouldn't be able to put up with for the rest of your life. I too, don't want to ever get divorced if I can help it, which is why I am not married yet, even though I spent 4 years with my last b/f. Yeah it would have made sense to just get married in that amount of time, but I just had that sneaking suspicion that he wasn't "the one" and guess what, it turned out I was right.
So maybe just wait it out a while longer or leave now if you already feel that maybe he's not the right one. A guy generally can take up to 2 or 3 years to finally realize for sure if you are their "the one" that they would want to marry. Hope this helps.
2006-10-09 09:11:56 · answer #2 · answered by jennnnn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not getting any younger. In 1 1/2 yrs, you should know if the relationship is headed for marriage. I would sit down and ask him - straight out,if you are wasting your life waiting for him and a commitment, or just what he sees ahead for his life and future.
These guessing games just accomplish nothing, but create doubts and scenarios that probably don't exist. Get the facts---and straight from the horses' mouth!
2006-10-09 09:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by Nisey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay until the common law marriage takes place or get married before that. One way or another you'll be married. Get pregnant and then he will marry you faster or run like crazy. Good luck to the both of you and God bless.
2006-10-09 09:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by stickinthemud 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I probably have a different outlook because I am much older than either of you. Perhaps you should read the book, "He's just not that into you". Not sure of the spelling on that title. Since you are questioning the relationship, you have doubts. I wouldn't give it more than 6 more months, especially since you are 3 years older than him and the two of you just might be in "different places" in your lives.
2006-10-09 09:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by Janie S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people get married early, some wait years. if you're feeling that you're at that point, maybe mention it to him. Ask him hypothetically, IF you were to get married, when he thinks he would want to. and then after he answers, say something like, "well, I"d marry you tomorrow if I could."
2006-10-09 09:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is the one for you then you will stay as long as it takes. And if you feel different then get out now before it gets to hard.
2006-10-09 09:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is willing to committ, then give it some more time. My husband took three years. We lived together for two of them. And then, we planned our wedding for two years. Five years total. Every relationship is different. Good Luck!
2006-10-09 09:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by lee911 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have discussed marriage then you both need to set a time table on when you will discuss it again you aren't that old to be freaking out about marriage
2006-10-09 09:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by drea g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no time frame...guys usually take things like that serious and don't like to rush so just give it time.. When the time is right he'll know when to propose to you especially since he knows how you feel about marriage and all.
2006-10-09 09:10:48 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋