well, i broke up from a loveless relationship 3 months ago (after 3 years together, and a broken lease). The way this new one looks at me, touches me, and talks with me is above and beyond the spirituality of my previous boyfriend. Too bad he is really hot, and has a rep. Ladies love him, but he seems to really be into me. sounds bad huh? Is he a player or should i go for it?
2006-10-09 08:51:49 · 21 answers · asked by Bean 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Greetings
Unless you've really changed something about how you
love and value yourself since your loveless marriage.
you will attract more of the same.
I highly recommend a book called secrets of attraction by
sandra anne taylor. She gives clear direction on why we attract
what we attract and why and how to shift it.
choosing a relationship is not good enough....choosing the right
relationship means never having to say goodbye again.
you deserve to truly be loved and respected, and there is a part
of you that does not fully love and respect yourself.
If you heal this, you can attract the love you are wanting in a partner. the book really helps with this.
please do not settle for anything less.
I truly wish you all the best
sincerely
willowgreen
ps. just in the way you have posed the question, reveals
that your "gut" your "intuition" already knows the answer.
2006-10-09 08:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by willowgreen66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold off on the sex and see how long he sticks around. I hate to say it, but after my last relationship, I'll always be wondering the same thing. Cuz that's how my ex was. Very friendly, gets along with people (girls...), and knows exactly what you want to hear. Also, a rep (you didn't say it was a good one) is a good indicator. Mine started young and is still playing the same game. If you want to try it out, just take things slow and don't do anything you'll regret later. Also, don't give him a lot of anything cuz that's what he'll be used to if he is a player.
2006-10-09 15:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good looking and has a rep...yeah, he's a player. As soon as you give it to him he will be doing what he's doing to you, to someone else. Sounds like anything is beyond the spirituality of your last bf. Shop around, act like you don't have a care in the world. SMILE! BE HAPPY! People are attracted to people that smile. Nothing is worse that being used. Don't fall for it.
2006-10-09 15:57:32 · answer #3 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bigger the player, the harder the ego falls. Even if he is a player his ego will be fragile as hell. A player is used to getting what he wants and how he wants it. He is used to women liking him and thrives on that for his ego. This kind of man is not ready for a relationship. HE probably doesn't know what he wants out of life since he can't chose from the gazillion women out there. HE is above and beyond becuase he might know how to make emotional love to his women.
If I were you, I would see him but at "arms length"
2006-10-09 16:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if I see the phrase """"" Love is the answer to every thing ,,,, Love is all you ever need""" again,,, I will vomit ,,,,That's just some song writers fantasy,,,,,There are allot more things that have to develop and take place to establish a love relationship ,,,,,,,, If this guy does something for you or to you it might be worth checking him out ,,,,,, You said he has a reputation though ,,,,, and if you don't know exactly what that is ,,,,, then that should be the first thing I'd check out if I were you ,,,,,,, Other wise have fun ,,,,,,, Yoda said that ,,,,,
2006-10-09 16:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what kind of Rep he has...Listen to the women who have dated him before b/c they will tell you the truth good or bad...the best thing you can do is make him "work" for it...make him "wait" without being to obvious about what your doing of coarse...time reveals all things and if he is really into you he will do whatever it takes to win your heart...remember your the mouse and he's the cat...make him chase you....
2006-10-09 15:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by LaShes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slam on your brakes - if he has a rep. He might be into you beause you are a challenge. Don't be in hurry - just because he's "hot" on the surface could turn out to be a COLD heart.
2006-10-09 16:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gut feeling is probably right, he probably IS a player; at the moment he probably IS into you, but who knows for how long. Whether or not you want to "go for it" depends on what you're looking for, and what you're prepared to deal with. Don't get into it too deeply, use him and lose him. Or, just find someone less "dangerous".
2006-10-09 15:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
reps are often misguided or mis interpreted - im a bit similiar to ur current bf - looks like he may have been a player in the past, but the way u describe him, it seems he does really like/love you.
2006-10-09 15:56:07 · answer #9 · answered by pennines123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your talking about me but i know your not cause i don't know you.what you should do is just go for the ride.you shouldn't be looking for a boy friend wright now. all you need is a toy friend and he sounds like the guy. the only way us men can be playaz is if you girls let us play you.so don't let that happen just use him for your needs and don't let your feelings get to strong for him. have fun!
2006-10-09 16:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by equality 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋