I tell you this woman is driving all of us Nut's!!! She is almost 50 and she repeat's her self and lies so darn much, that none of her 3 adult children want to have anything to do with her. She has lost her mind. My father stand's beside her even tho he know's that she is full of bull hockey!! My brother is getting married and she is starting the circus!! 2 weeks and counting and Im sure someone will be in trouble. I have asked her to quit calling and she just down right refuses. Not only is it affecting my family, but I am just ready to pull my hair out! She act's like she is 15 and everyone owes her. Short of finding a shallow hole for her I dont know what to do with her anymore. She is ruining lives and she does not feel one bit bad about it. She manipulates every subject and trys to make everyone feel guilty and bad for her becuase she sits on her a@@ This has gone on way to long!! How do I stop it once and for all??
2006-10-09 08:46:27 · 11 answers · asked by Niecy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sometimes it's best to remove people from your life. Just because she is your mother doesn't mean you have to be around her. Run away from her as fast as you can. Don't look back and don't leave a forwarding address.
2006-10-09 08:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Funny, when you were that way at 15 or 16...she probably loved you anyway. She may be going through a change of life (menopause) which causes mood swings and other changes to her thought process. If she is lying, maybe that is how she remembers it....could be the start of a medical condition. You sound very harsh and bitter. If you don't want anything to do with her, let her go...but you should honor her and help her by being honest and quit being angry.
2006-10-09 15:50:32 · answer #2 · answered by mac5doc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The behavior you describe, the repetition and lying is typical of the beginnings of Alzheimer's. She may actually be losing her mind and its fairly common for those closest to her to cover up whats going on by 'standing beside her'. See if you can talk to the rest of her adult children about having her evaluated. Maybe they can talk to Dad about this too. You can't stop it, nothing can, but possibly knowing her to be ill and not just out to get you may make a difference in how you see and treat her.
2006-10-09 16:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I stay away from people that are "crazy". Avoid her at all cost. But I have to wonder...has she always been this way? Could there be a medical condition that makes her act this way? Do you live in the same town? Get an answering machine and screen your calls. I have a sister that is crazy....I just keep the hell away from her.
2006-10-09 15:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like some of the stages of Alzheimer's and if so she doesn't have any other choice, I suggest a visit to the doctor for her rather than sitting in judgement of her. How will you feel if it comes back as Alsheimer's or some other sort of physical ailment? What a nice family you have to sit in judgement of someone who might be suffering in your family I can tell you have no family values to speak of.
2006-10-09 15:56:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine disowned me when I got pregnant at 19. She finally came around. Now we aren't speaking AGAIN b/c she is mad that I won't cheat on my husband with someone that has money(I would rather be happy than rich-how many women say that now a days?!)and she don't like my house either. WEIRD HUH?! Not only that but when she found out that I was pregnant she wanted me to have an abortion or give it up for adoption. Which makes no sense to me since she herself was adopted!
2006-10-09 15:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
has anyone had the COMPASSION to take her to a DOCTOR and see if she has a MENTAL ILLNESS? This could be bipolar disorder, depression, the start of Alzheimer's disease or any combination of problems.
It soundslike she needs some serious HELP and ignoring her is NOT going to help her. Take her to a doctor, get her some therapy.
If not, cut her off, walk away and never communicate with her again. You either have the compassion to try to help her, or you don't.
2006-10-09 15:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by KB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TALK TO HER AND TRY TO RESOLVE HER PROBLEMS. SHE CAN'T BE DOING THAT WITHOUT A GOOD RESON, AS U SED SHE IS 50 AND THEREFORE SHE MUST HAVE A GOOD RESON FOR WHAT SHE IS DOING. JUST ASK HER NICELY AND CALMLY. SEE WHAT HAPPENES. TRUST ME IT'LL WORK IF U MAKE HER ALL HER NICE FOODS AND BASICALLY DO WHAT SHE REALLY LIKES AND THEN ASK HER GENTLY WHY SHE IS DOING WHAT SHE IS DOING.
2006-10-09 15:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by SJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your not alone. Mom's are crazy. I maybe crazy someday too.
Sell her to some gypsys.
2006-10-09 15:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha...my mom is exactly like that....haha...theres nothing you can do...my mom has been like that forever and i dont think she will ever change. Mine takes meds though...that kinda helps...maybe you should give her meds.
sucks...but shes still your mom...you gotta love her unconditionally...even when you want to strangel her...haha
2006-10-09 15:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by Lek 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋