like once you found out, regardless how, didnt you see your partner as like "used", you know when shoes are worn out and you jsut want to throw them away? unclean, like as low as possible, even lower then ****? oh and also to those of you who tihnk that cheating was a mistake can you help me out here, how cna it be a mistake? didnt you know it would hurt your partner? isnt a mistake buying your gf clothes that are twice as big or buying your bf the wrong PSP game? thank you!
2006-10-09 08:44:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you are right, you do see the person as being "used" I know that noone ownes any other human being, but when you are with someone you still can't help but to feel a sence that that person is yours because of the time, emotions, itimacy shared. So yes when you hear about that person being with someone else then they seem tainted.
Cheating is not a mistake, people only call it a mistake when they get caught and are not ready to accept the consequences, then they say it was a mistake, a mistake is something unitentional, that you really did not mean to do,and even with a mistake we have to take responsibilty for our actions, and in cheating the person has a choice to not do it.
2006-10-09 08:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by Thandie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is NO mistake...they did it and they were obviously drawn to the other person for some reason. There's always a reason. Trust me, I've been cheated on more than once and I now know that the only thing you can do is move on. I had to realize that I obviously wasn't enough for him, and as hard as that is to think about, it made it easier to say goodbye. It's been almost a year, and I'm still hurting and I'm still scared about letting someone else back in. It takes time, but time heals. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-09 16:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by oceanstruck 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He had a history of cheating in his previous relationships. He didn't ever admit anything even when the facts were there (He gave me two incurable STDs) and I blinded myself into making excuses for him so I wouldn't have to accept the truth. I didn't want to see him as unfaithful because that would mean I'd have to accept that he didn't consider me to be "the one he'd been waiting all his life for," which is what he always told me and I really wanted to believe. Pretty much it was a head game. Now that I look back, I broke up with him a year ago, my thoughts are so much clearer and I'm still somewhat bitter, but even moreso, I feel sorry for him because he obviously doesn't want a decent relationship for himself and is going to live the rest of his stubborn miserable drunk life looking for the greener grass and not acknowledging his own mistakes. Oh, he tries to contact me occassionally, even though he claims to have a girlfriend and they have a "trusting" relationship. Okay, that makes sense-- he's contacting me and she's blinded herself in the same ways I did. Same old same old... Yes, he's "used" and "unclean,"and I did want to throw him away and didn't want to hurt him and didn't want to face being on my own either. I used to think he may be my only chance at "love." Now I realize it wasn't love, at least not good love. Bad love, twisted need. Lots of lessons learned there. Biggest lesson was for me to take some time to figure out what I believe is absolutely necessary in a relationship (like trust, honesty, communication, willingness to amke the effort to be mutually content, etc) and what I think is absolutely not acceptable (cheating, disappearing acts, lies, gray areas, name calling, irrational behavior or abuse, unwillingness to resolve issues, etc.), then I decided I would never settle for LESS than what I felt was right. It worked. I'm in a really good relationship now (for nearly a year) and my gut is telling me only good things about it. Listen to your gut, avoid unneccessary heartache.
2006-10-09 16:16:30 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its about time someone said something on this matter...for that i give you definite props!! No man should ever date if he knows he cant just stay with one girl...and that he has to cheat on her-just to get some dirty cheap action (if you know what I mean). If a guy really liked you-he would never even think of cheating on you. But if he's not totally committed-i say adios, and good riddens!!
2006-10-09 15:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it isnt a misteak a mistake is an acident cheating is wrong it hurts to be cheated on
i have been cheated on so i know first hand how it feels and it succks
2006-10-09 15:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by unkown 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it can be a mistake because they may have been caught up in a moment and forgot what they were doing....ive been on both ends so i understand where ur comming from but he may have made a mistake like that....
2006-10-09 15:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by confused_mexican 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well...cheating isn't such an easy thing to look at...hell..if it were as cut and dry as simple yes or no...there would probably be less cheating going on.
its hard to fathom....as beinga guy who had his significant other cheat on me before....mind you..since it was with a member of the same sex , it was alright....never realy figured that one out...but ohh well....best advice for people who have been cheated on...move on....choose your own life...if it includes the person who cheated on you fine..if not..also fine..but make your choices...don't let other people affect your decission.
2006-10-09 15:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by bald_guy69 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You mean you CAN'T accidentally get naked, spread your legs, and have some poor schmuck accidentally fall over his own mysteriously lowered pants which causes him to accidentally put his hee-haw in your whoo-hoo? Man, I gotta talk to my ex-wife. I think she was lying to me...
2006-10-09 15:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by Chuck N Knutz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya it sux so much and its a mistake to the guy after u dump there *** cause they r asses lol
2006-10-09 15:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋