I've been w/ my boyfriend for 8mths. We have been through alot considering he is a widower w/ a 3yr old daughter (which I adore). We live in a town where everyone knows you and since we started dating there has been one "friendly" woman that won't stop flirting or making advances towards my BF (such as sitting on his lap at the bar, calling him, and being touchy feely) He asked her out before we got together and she blew him off twice now she wants him. I know he won't act on it but what bothers me is he won't interfere and tell her to back off either, which I think out of respect for my feelings and our relationship he should. I told him it's not his fault she calls or does any ot those things but if he doesn't handle it I will. He says I have nothing to worry about, but I know something similiar will happen again when we are at the bar and I'm scared I will go WFwrestling on her *** lol What is the best way to deal with this? Should I ignore it? Am I overreacting?
2006-10-09 08:38:47 · 11 answers · asked by LaShes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, you are definitely NOT overracting. I can't believe you have allowed it to go that far. Do NOT ignore it!!! First of all, if he says there is nothing to worry about, why is he allowing such a thing to happen in the first place. It is hard to find a woman that can still loves a man and his lil girl (even though it is not her child), he need to recognize. You need to put your foot down and let him know what is up AGAIN. If he doesn't get it, you need to show him you mean business. What it is..the other lady wasn't interested until he started dating someone else...now he is not thinkin about her any longer, she don't want to see him with any one else. That sort of thing makes me sick. She want him to continue chasing after her after she has given him the boot. Girlfriend...I say handle it!!! It is awful that you go out with your man and this lady act like that towards YOUR man. Oh NO!!!! Oh NO!!!! She needs to be put in check if your boyfriend will not do it. Good Luck!! Yeah, put in a punch for me too:)
2006-10-09 08:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not over-reacting. If I were you I would do this. The next time you and your bf go to the bar, I would wait for her to go outside or in the bathroom. When she is alone I would get really close to her (all in her face) and tell her that the last girl that tried to sit on your mans lap is barried where no one will find her. Then tell her that if she would like to join her then go on and sit on your mans lap but if not don't look at him or touch what is yours. Make sure you look scary and mean. After you have scared the crap out of her pat her on the back and say I'm glad we have had a chance to have this little talk. Then walk away like nothing happened. I have done that before, not the actual killing part, that was all a fib but I did threaten this chick that was trying to take my man from me, after I did that in the bathroom she never even said Hi to him after that, not even from a distance, LMAO. Trust me act like your a crazy nut for 5 minutes and she'll pick someone elses man to rub all over. Hope that helps!!! Good Luck, OH and let me know how it goes, if you do try it. Its funny when you act like a crazy women and for some reason she doesn't want your man anymore. Hmmmm
2006-10-09 15:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your "boyfriend" is over friendly towards someone, and your there, then its a "slap in the face" you have been waiting for...Unfortunately, its YOUR FACE that is getting slapped!
If you drive your own vehicle, then by all means, drive home! He is getting what he wants, female attention. Apparently "your" not enough for him, and he is craving more of it.
Its unfortunate that you have bonded with his son, because you need to cut the ties that bind you with him.
Now, if your smart, you would suggest other things, besides bars to go to, on the weekends.
You "know" she will be there, and you still go there, so, there is something wrong with you also! Your a glutton for punishment!!!
He "will" eventually act on it, if this girl persists, the first time you are not around, because he will feel that he can "get away with it" and who knows, he might have and you know nothing about it!
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-10-09 15:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't overreacting. He needs to tell this chick to back off and let her know that she had her chance and she blew it. If you tell her to back off she's going to see it as a challenge and do everything she can to get your hackles up.
Ask him how he'd feel if some guy acted like that in front of him knowing that the two of you are together. If he says he wouldn't mind then he's lying.
2006-10-09 15:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it IS his fault she calls and does those things because obviously he hasn't told her not. There's nothing for you to handle- you're not his wife, you're not his fiance, you're just dating him. HE has to tell her to stop sitting on his lap and touching him-- if he really wants her to stop... he might be enjoying it.
I don't know if I would ignore it per se--- I'd wonder why the man hasn't put a stop to it. The problem isn't with her-- it's with him.
2006-10-09 15:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman want what they can't have. I get jealous too over a friendf that is married. I keep feeling like I want my friend but I have the feeling if he wasn't married I were feel this way. It's the want what I can't have syndrome. This is what the flirty filly is thinking.
2006-10-09 15:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont belive in violence i think , you should take it easy i wouldnt want to imagine what it would look like you all up on her, pulling hairs and punching faces (very unlady like) i think the best thing to do is,tell him it is disrespectful to you ,his allowance of what is going on... becsue honsestly it is disrespectful to you, but actually it is he who should tell the woman off not you ...you are not overreacting and you should just let let him know how you feel .. i mean what if a guy did the same to you ...
2006-10-09 15:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by painter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are other places to go to besides the bar. Find one and sit on his lap yourself.
2006-10-09 15:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that she had her chance and now its urs and u guys r really in love and to stop calling him and being all touchy feely because u dont like that at all
2006-10-09 15:42:55 · answer #9 · answered by I_LoVe_HiM!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, definetly the wrestling. Yeah. Just be sure to soak yourselves real good in baby lotion.
2006-10-09 15:43:31 · answer #10 · answered by Chuck N Knutz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋