Is it normal to have a 3 year old girl sleeping in her mothers bedroom? (parents no longer live together) Are there any laws on this in Canada?
2006-10-09 08:26:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Ok maybe I didn't give enough information, sorry. The child was in a bedroom which she shared with her older sister, when the parents split the 3 year old and her bed was moved back into mommy's room (which she was out of at the age of 1) She does not share the bed with mommy, the bedroom is shared. I guess I wrote that a little too quick, and the reason I asked about laws was mom does have men sleep over and the child is being exposed to this in the room.
2006-10-09 08:37:23 · update #1
It's not ABnormal!!
The family bed is a very common practice.
Many cultures practice this and many people in the US do as well. If mother and child are happy then I don't see what the problem is. It won't last forever. The girl will eventually want to sleep in her own room.
2006-10-09 08:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by seaelen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not allow a 3 yrs old to sleep with you Mommy or Daddy. She is old enough to sleep in her own room and should. You can have cuddle time in your bed but do not put her to sleep in there. It can cause anxiety when they are removed later when older. Or if mommy has a new husband they get territorial and jellous. Kid need to grown up and part of that is sleeping alone. They can never grown up sleeping with a parent. What if you girl wants to sleep with you when she is 10, 12 or ? How will you stop it then. A child grows up afraid that way of the dark or monsters of life. Help make her self-sufficient.
2006-10-09 08:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know anything about the laws in Canada but my opinion on sharing the bed is:
It's up to you. I've had my kids sleep in my bed for comforting reasons and I've shared a room with my oldest daughter when she was little cause there was only 1 bedroom. What's going on in the room for you to be worring about it being normal?
2006-10-09 08:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for some people. Like my ex's other kid and her mother. Just because where ever they happen to live, there is not room to sleep separately. So I guess it has been a way of life for them. Not for me though. I had my baby in my room until she was too big for the bassinet, then she moved to her own room in the crib. I've only let her sleep with me on occasion, when she's going through a phase and wakes up refusing to lay back down in her own bed. But that's only happened like twice so far.
2006-10-09 08:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has this mother told you that things are going on in the room while her child is asleep? I would hope that this mother would not do that with her child in the room asleep. I could see where it might confuse the child if different men are sleeping with mom. She may not understand what a healthy relationship is between a man and a women.
2006-10-09 11:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by Mary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our 3 yr old slept in our bed for her entire life. Then recently we got her a new bed and it has been much better the new bed is much more comfortable and I think that helped. My wife and I committed to making sure she stays in her bed from now on. we go in there to put her to sleep and when she wakes up one of us (usually my wife) goes in and sleeps in her bed with her until we can come back to our own bed. It was a little rough at first but I think she has finally made the adjustment.
We kind of miss her in our bed sometimes but mostly its really nice to have our bad back.
2006-10-09 08:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If Mom has the guys over and more than sleep is going on than yes it is VERY wrong and child services should be contacted. I would first talk to the father maybe he could do something before DEFACS gets into it.
2006-10-09 09:21:57 · answer #7 · answered by ellc123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal. Kids feel secure around there parents, however I'd slowly start easing her back into her bedroom. For instant after she falls asleep take her back to her bedroom. She might wake up at night and sneak back to your room. after sometime start placing her in her room and see what happens
2006-10-09 08:31:30 · answer #8 · answered by falia t 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Laws or not this is wrong the child should be in her own room and you also have guys in the room.....common put the kid in her own bed in her own room
2006-10-09 11:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by Princess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong, but if mommy decides to get a man, the daughter will hate him for getting her kicked out of mommy's bed.
2006-10-09 08:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by blazenphoenix 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋