I'm a mom with a girl (age 9) that is wondering about some big stuff. She came home the other day and was quiet so I asked her if anything was wrong and she started asking me all these questions.
-'I saw you and dad lastnight and you were both naked. You had something big and long in you boodie, what was it?'
-'When dad said can I f-ck you a$$ to you (mom) what does he mean?'
Now you know her questions. She also wants to know why boys have 'the thing' girls don't have.
I don't know what to tell her. I want to explain everything so she isn't lost but I don't know how to start or tell her. Should me and my husband show her?
HELP!!!
2006-10-09 08:23:07 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Whatever you do, do NOT show her anything more that you and her father do.
There is a great video called, "The Miracle of Life" that explicitly shows what happens from conception to birth.
Review it first with your husband and if you then feel it's appropriate for your child, show it to her.
2006-10-09 09:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by mortyfint 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Time to explain!!! Wow this is a big one. She is to young for to much info. Keep it simple You and your husband were expressing your love for each other in a way only husband and wife do. God made our bodies differant for this reason and sometimes a baby is made in this way. Tell her something like that because if she hasn't asked about babys yet then this will get that talk over with to. Don't give to much info do stress only a husband and wife should do this act. you may add into this talk about her right to say NO and were it's ok to be touch and not. I wish you luck you'll do fine I think I'd have the talk maybe while baking cookies or something that would distract her a little and be more relaxing.
2006-10-09 08:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her?? show her what? you two having sex?? NO NO NO!!! First of all I have children and when they ask questions like that you tell them that is how parents show there affection for one another. I would go into the whole birds and bees theory but would explain that things like that should not be done till she is married. Also explain that she is big enough to knock on your door regardless of what time it is because your adults and you need your privacy. Try not to be nervous but make sure she doesn't have any more questions when your done talking about it. I would also have your husband there for support and if she wants confirmation from him or if she has questions for him. I hope that helps and Good Luck!!!
2006-10-09 08:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When telling your daughter the facts of life, explain things with the proper words. when she wants to know what the f word means tell her all about marriage and sex, but only if you figure she will be able to understand. Just explain that some people chose to use different words for different things. If you can find pictures of the human bodies, it would help!
2006-10-09 08:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When kids are old enough to start asking questions, they're old enough to start listening to the answers. You don't have to go into complete detail about how everything works or why. Why not take her to your local library, or go yourself, and see if you can find an age appropriate book which can help you explain things to her?
As for showing, heck no! That's going overboard!
2006-10-09 09:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Showing may not be an appropriate choice for parents and especially for so young a girl. What my mother helped me with was a booklet from a sanitary napkin company early sixties - you can call your local women's clinic or library and someone will be able to direct you to one or more choices. I wish you the best in all of this.
2006-10-09 08:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by Charlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd better start telling her some truths about it, for it's much better she learned from you, instead from some guy at school or
a bully on the street. Talk to her as an equal, treat her as a big person and not as a 9 yo girl. You'll be paid back!
Ciao.........John-John.
2006-10-09 08:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by John-John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking about having sex in front of the girl you are crazy. Get sex ed books, read it and explain it in a way that she will understand. Try to leave out the expletives. Tell her that is the way that daddy expresses himself.
If you cannot do that, take her to a guidance councillor who could better explain it.
2006-10-09 08:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
showing her with you and your husband, might not be the best idea, it might give her the wrong impression about what is socially exceptable, however, there are plenty of books out there along with programs at school, that can show her and the two of you can read the books together and then its a good beginning to a conversation
2006-10-09 08:29:25 · answer #9 · answered by Ugs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her? What do you mean by that? Are you crazy? Go to the book store and find an appropriate book for a child of her age and go over it with her. Show her what do you want to do emotionally impair her for the rest of her life?
2006-10-09 08:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋