How do you cope with not being able to focus at work when you have personal problems outside of work?
2006-10-09 08:19:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
No, if what's going on in your life has your head in a mess, and you need to stay at home to clear it up, that's fine.
Take a down day, and just rest, as a clutter mind, can not focus, and your work performance may suffer b/c of it.
But if this is a pattern, then you really need to face what ever it is bothering you, seek therapy or take a short leave of absence, until you can sort things out.
One thing that might help, is a journal, where you write in at night, and put all the day's problems and troubles in the journal, and out of your mind.
I cope with stress by taking long walks after school/classes, by going to the gym, (something about breaking out a sweat, that really does the mind good) or seeing a movie.. or just playing a video game, something to take my mind off of troubles, and focus on something that does not require much thought or stress.
Good luck!
P.S. A healthy diet helps too, they say bananas are great for stress and depression. ♥ ♥ ♥
2006-10-09 08:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by * Deep Thought * 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i recently did just that , quit my job I was at for 3 years and thought things would get better if I stayed home with the kids until I got my kids under control again. Well I may have done some controlling at home but leaving my job wasn't an answer. Its been 5 months and I am starting a new job tomorrow because I like working and socializing with people other than the 4 others that live with me(my kids and husband) I also know it good for one to be with there peers and being home all day was making me crazy. So unless you don't need to work you need to keep you personal life just that,seprate..good luck personal and you work life
2006-10-09 10:32:36 · answer #2 · answered by tazzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while taking a mental health day or two here and there is a good way not to bring your distress to the office, what you do with the day(s) can work for or against you... if you wallow in your despair, head under the covers, after even two days of that, you are likely to feel the need to call out the third day or more... t'would be a lot more productive to spend some of the out time sorting out some of your personal issues, you might actually gain some ground during your time off and not just a reprieve from your work woes.
2006-10-09 14:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by dornalune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually its not work because being stressed out is like being sick so it isn't wrong to stay home until you feel better. You don't want to go to work in a horrible mood because you won't be able to focus on your work and you might snap at people possibly causing you to loose your job. So you don't want to regret that later, so maybe a few days home is best to clear your head.
2006-10-09 08:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by kadeah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking the odd day off here and there is not uncommon and some employers even allw for this with "personal leave days".
If it is getting in the way of you being able to have a functional life on a daily basis then you need to get some proffessional help quickly.
2006-10-09 08:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by plantladywithcfids 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, when I do that I call it a "mental health day". We aren't machines. Everyone has a life outside of work. If you really can't focus it's better to stay home than risk going to work and falling apart!
2006-10-09 08:39:07 · answer #6 · answered by ~mj~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I have been really struggling with this myself the last few days. My bf (whom I still love and whom still loves me) broke up with me last monday. I have been an emotional wreck, but I have also kind of been desperate to just have people around me so I have been forcing myself to go to work.
I've made it a point to let people know that I am suffering and to bear with me, that I would still do the best job I can do.
I was kind of afraid I would just sit at my desk and cry all day last week... and well, that's basically what I did I took a big box of kleenex in with me. My co-workers were very understanding and let me take little breaks to go for walks and to talk to my mom on the phone.
I'm sorry you are having a rough time, let yourself be a mess for a while. It will get better.
2006-10-09 08:26:32 · answer #7 · answered by Qrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no of course not, but staying home all by youself wont help your problems. talk them out with others. it will help, language exist so that we could tell others what we feel and let others know something. If you keep sometime inside you expecially negative feeling it will build up and it wouldnt be good. I hadnt been throught this so what im saying may not help, but as i look around me i know that a lot of people are going through the same thing. You are never alone. Hope you feel better soon.
2006-10-09 10:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by Meow~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's only a day or two, I think it's okay. You should never have to stress yourself out at work when your personal life is already screwed up. Just don't make it a habit, and don't call in for every little problem. Usually, if you explain what is happening to your boss, you'll get a little bit of leeway.
2006-10-09 08:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by ivoryhalo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone does it at some point in time!! You are not a robot with an on & off switch. If your personal life is not going well you need to sort it out or it will affect your work. Sometimes sorting it out might take a long time...keep working at it.
2006-10-09 08:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by Cichlid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋