My ex-boyfriend and I have been friends for 9 years. We have been seperated for the last four years however we have been lovers for the full 9 years. We have never stopped sleeping together on occasion. He now has another girlfriend and I think he needs to let her know about our relationship. He does not want to stop sleeping with me but yet will not tell her about us. She lives in another state from him and they have a long-distant relationship. I think he should be honest with her but he is afraid she will "go away" and he wants to keep the relationship. I think she should know - no matter what. I would love some suggestions on this if anyone would care to share.
2006-10-09 08:15:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What would you get out of telling her? Your morals seem to be askew because you're sleeping with the mate of someone else. The sensible thing would be to realize that you are selling yourself short for being with the guy. He's not committing to either one of you, he's got the best of both worlds. I suspect you're not content with exchanging bed partners, but it is your goal to have the other girlfriend know that you are casually open?
It's his business about informing her, not yours. He's playing the field and doesn't want to jeopardize either opportunity. If you both want to continue on as it is, then so be it, but if you have that casual of a relationship, you don't have any rights with other relationship. Why settle for a triangle of drama? Be good to yourself, you deserve more. Be well~
2006-10-09 08:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by Manatee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be the other woman. there's a reason that you're relationship didn't work so all he's using you for now is sex. stop sleeping with him, but if you do choose to keep it up he needs to let her know, or it's just not right. how would you feel if your new boyfriend was still sleeping with his ex? it would hurt your feelings.
2006-10-09 15:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're mental! Why did you break up then? Did you break up at all? Why can't you stand the idea of sharing your friend? It is you who agreed to see other people too no? Are you jealous for the long distance relationship? Or are you afraid he'll like her se* more then yours? Are scared of losing the little part of him? All men have one so why keep that one??
2006-10-09 15:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by kobe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop sleeping with him and leave her alone. It's not your place to tell her, you're not the one dating her. He's the one that needs to tell her if and when he's ready. You just want to tell her so she will leave him and you can keep him to yourself. If things progress with her, he may stop sleeping with you and you don't want that to happen. Quit being immature and move on.
2006-10-09 15:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to to go ahead and let her know, if it is bothering you why hold on to it, you need to tell the truth, and you know what you are wrong by letting it go on!! Remember, what goes around comes around. one way or another!!! So fess up, drop that fool, because guess what he sleeping with you and more than likely when he is with her, sleeping with her too. find you somebody who is not attached, you will thank me later. Signed a married man!!!! P.S you people are crazy just sleeping around, too many diseases going on.
2006-10-09 15:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by Travis D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop sleeping with him
2006-10-09 15:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by Alissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you just back off he is also cheating on you as well, he cares about her or she wouldn't even be in the picture
2006-10-09 15:19:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kathy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could pee on his clothes and furniture, that way she will smell your scent and figure it out. Mark your territory!
2006-10-09 15:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋