there is this girl that is 21 and i have looked up to her for everything and now she is getting married to a 42 year old guy! she is like my older sister and if she gets married i will barely get to talk to her! HELP
2006-10-09 08:07:16 · 11 answers · asked by Baby_Blair<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
its her life if she feel happy why not
2006-10-09 08:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why is it a mistake for her to marry this guy? If neither one of them is currently married, they are of age. We are born with free will and that is what she is excercising here -- leave it alone.
Your only argument appears to be that you will lose your "older sister" because you will not be able to talk as much. I am sorry, but whether you agree with the marriage or not -- that is part of life.
Now is the time to spread your wings a bit and reach out to other people you know -- join a club or a team that has interests like yours. Expand your horizons -- get involved in community service -- look out to the life happening beyond you.
2006-10-09 15:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by joyann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to her and tell her that you are scared that you wont be able to see her anymore if she marries him. Voice your concerns without saying that you don't like him or that she's making a mistake. If you say those thoughts she'll get defensive and you might end up losing her. Just tell her your concerns for your friendship with her. I'm sure that she'll put your mind at ease with this and that could open up more dialogue for you to voice your concerns with this guys age. Ask her if she realizes that when she's 40 he'll be in his 60's! Ask her if she's sure she wont end up regretting this down the road. All you can really do is be there for her. Trying to change her mind isn't going to work. But getting her to think about it might.
2006-10-09 15:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is happy - as a friend and 'little sister' - you should be happy and supportive. You may not like the idea - but her getting married isn't about YOU. Stop being selfish and help her build a happy marriage - like a good friend should.
2006-10-09 16:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by Carol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this question sounds like you are more concerned about the changning dynamics of your relationship with your friend rather than her happiness.
though I do agree with your concern about her marrying someone twice her age.however that is happening a lot all over the place
2006-10-11 10:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy to stop a marriage. However if you worried about never talking to her again tell her be honest with her.
2006-10-09 15:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you that this is very sad. It's like she's marrying her dad - tell her that and expand on it that it's not a good idea at all.
2006-10-09 19:24:12 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay out of it or you will look like the bad person.
2006-10-09 15:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like jealousy to me.
2006-10-09 15:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can do, she will do what she wants because she feels that it is the right decision for her. All you can do is pray for her and wish her the best.
2006-10-09 15:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant. all you can do is support her and be there for her if things don't turn out the way she wants.you may be suprised, they may be great for each other.
2006-10-09 15:14:14 · answer #11 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋