Am i sacrifing too much for her?

Question

I am currently dating my friend and it been the best months of my life and really think we going to be together for the long run. I was a big time party maniac in college with my buddies which she knows and remembers all our drunk and crazy stories. Recently she told me she hates me drinking and getting wasted, and i promised her to quit drinking, but that very nite i had to get some beer and she got mad and feels the trust is not there. She claims i need some few tweaks, and that when my college friends are back in town, i need to behave. I know i need to grow up but should i not change on my own.

Answer 1

Well yes you should change on your own. But maybe she sees something that you don't. I don't mind if you go out with your buddies but I wouldn't want to be there when you come home pissy drunk and I have to clean up after you. Plus on the other had i don't know how old you are. if your thirty it is a little over the top to still be drinking like you where in college.
Good Luck

Answer 2

I answered her also. You'll eventually slow down and find a calm medium to where u come home from work, have 1-2 cold beers to relax and that i'll be it cept for when ya'll go out to party. I told her I used to drink so much cause i was bored and it was sumthin fun to do daily that i could afford. Just let her know ur watching the situation and that it takes time to change olf routines. especially ones right out of college, hell, college and the military are what gets the distillers and brewers rich and snott.

Answer 3

I think that she just wants the best for you - that's all. You should only change if that is what YOU want to do. But really, what kind of life is constantly getting drunk? None..There's nothing wrong with partying once in a while & I'm sure she's even okay with that. Don't see it so much as her wanting to change you, but wanting to "grow" with you...

Answer 4

Don't ever change for a woman. Stop drinking is just the first in a long line of changes she intends to make. One day, you'll wake up and you won't even recognize yourself. Drinking was a pre-existing condition. If she can't accept it, then it's her fault for getting involved with you in the first place.

Answer 5

She should be careful wanting you to change too much. I did that with my first husband , he turned into everything I wanted and then I didn't want him anymore. I think that I liked the idea of the changes but when it came down to it, I fell in love with him not who I wanted him to become. You will have to sacrifice in a relationship, but you shouldn't have to become a new person. Somethings you will just grow out of anyway.

Answer 6

One thing for sure. Don't make a false promise. If she is comfortable with moderate drinking, or an honest and infrequent night on the town with your buddies, talk it over with her. Even so, don't do anything stupid.

Answer 7

Either she hates u for drinking way too much to destroy ur health or she's afraid u might get to know more girls out there if u continue to party!~

Answer 8

dont tell her u will quit if u dont want to!! and she doesnt need to harrass u about drinking she should tell u how she feels and she doesnt have to drink if u do!!! let her know u appreciate her opinion and caring but u can only stop if YOU want to.. cuz its the truth!!

Answer 9

If you are happy with her, you need to tell her its not that easy just to quit one day.
Maybe just start slowing down, partying can **** up your life anyway

Answer 10

depends on how far you want the relationship to go...if it is someone you care for and could married the suck it up and slow all that stuff down...

if not don't waste your time with the sacrifice...