His bed time is 8pm. You can look at him and tell he is tired so he's not going to bed to early. But he is using every stalling tactic he can. I want some water, I need to potty (but he does nothing), I want this toy, I want that toy, come cover me up. He gets up a minimum of about 10 times per night and I don't know what to do.
Any suggestions.
2006-10-09 08:00:18 · 11 answers · asked by jtc_girl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My daughter tries to stall too. I allow her to ask for one extra kiss from Daddy and if she asks for something to drink, I usually already have a sippy with water in the room. I know she doesn't stay in bed because when she gets up in the morning there are tons of stuffed animals in her bed, but she knows not to leave her room.
I would be firm with your son and tell him at a certain time you're turning out the lights and not coming back. Find a suitable punishment for getting up and leaving his room. I'd probably allow him one trip to the potty, but if he starts wetting the bed you might have to rethink that. Even if he's getting up and getting toys, it's probably okay as long as he stays in his room. He'll go to sleep when he's ready. Keep him on a tight schedule, don't let him sleep late if you think he was up too late the night before. Eventually he will go to sleep on time because he only has a certain time frame to get the sleep his body needs.
2006-10-09 08:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by S. O. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duct Tape.
No, seriously, we have the same problem with our son who just turned three a month ago. What I've started doing lately that works sometimes but not others is this. We have a shelf that is high enough up on the wall that he can't reach it but can still see it. I use this to put the toys on that he cannot play with because they've been taken away from him, one of the forms of punishment we use. So, after once or twice of getting up or asking to get up I pick up a favorite toy of his and explain in terms that he can understand that because he's being naughty he won't be able to play with this toy anymore and I put it up on the shelf that he cannot reach. It sometimes takes once or twice but he does eventually get the picture. The toy stays up there for 2-3 days and when he does something particularly good or nice it comes down. He sometimes stares up at that shelf and says "I can't play with that cuz I was notty, right?" I let him know that that's right. Not perfect, but it's one thing we do.
2006-10-09 15:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's wanting attention and by giving into his wants you are giving him just what he wants so the behavior is working for him. Put him to bed, tell him goodnight, the first time he gets up tell him he must stay in bed, every time after that simply put him back in bed without saying a word or doing anything. A couple of nights and he will get the message and the behavior will stop. But you need to be committed to doing it and be willing to go through a sleepless night or two. Good luck!
2006-10-09 15:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm lucky enough to have a bedroom for my son with two doors so I can lock him in. If you don't change the lock on his door to one you can unlock from the outside. I started locking my son in and he spent a few nights on the floor but quickly learned that the bed was more comfortable and no matter what he wasn't getting out of his room. Now the door remains unlocked but he knows that I lay down in bed and I go to sleep no questions asked. This kept it from being a power struggle or getting emotional at all.
2006-10-09 15:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by leavemealone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch Super Nanny she has great ideas for everything that comes up. Several times she has you put the child down, if they keep getting up just walk them back to bed, if they call for this or that ignore them they will soon learn that is bedtime and after a few days no trouble at all.
My neice is 17 months and at noon nap time she will cry but she knows that nobody is coming back to get her so she goes to sleep in 5 minutes or less.
2006-10-09 15:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by Carol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 2 year old started that one... try standing outside of his door for about 10-15 minutes after you place him to bed... everytime he gets out put him back to bed. They are so worried they will miss out on something... however being my 2 year old is my 3rd it has worked with all of them. Oh yeah and reassure the child you are not far away and remind them you love them and that it is time for sleep.
2006-10-09 15:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little girl did the same thing! She tried to think of any excuse to come out of her room. We finally ended up putting on one of those saftey door handles on the inside of her door. I know it sounds like we are locking her in, but it worked! She knows that she can't open the door so she just goes to sleep whe we put her down. If she needs to go to the potty or something is wrong she knows to call for us or knock on the door. I love it!
2006-10-09 15:38:03 · answer #7 · answered by Allison W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time he gets up, take him by the hand, bring him back to bed, say "its bedtime", tuck him him and close his door. No water. No Potty. My kid did this too. It took 90 minutes the first night, 15 minutes the 2nd night, by 3rd night kid didnt do it no more. Please give me 10 points when it works!
2006-10-09 15:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by johnnylakis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to put your foot down and make him stay in the bed....otherwise the same up and down will continue to happen....I have a 5 year old son and went through the same thing..
good luck
2006-10-09 15:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by girlegyrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you sing a song, or let him now that you are nearby? Kids love that. You need to wait a a little while, before they really get asleep. Be patient!!
2006-10-09 15:06:05 · answer #10 · answered by Potitin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋