My girlfriend is getting married next year and she has asked me to be one of the bridesmaids. There is this one girl that I just can't stand her and her mom, (I just don't feel comfortable around them). she will also be one of the bridesmaids. I didn't even think the day would come where we would see each other again. I wanna be there for my girlfriend on her special day. I really can't back out, my girlfriend would be so disappointed in me. How do I handle this?
2006-10-09 07:48:03 · 21 answers · asked by Lady Mandeville 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My girlfriend doesn't know that I don't like her friend.
2006-10-09 07:48:34 · update #1
As a bridemaid you are only there to support your friend. Other than maybe the shower, the rehearsal and the actual day you won't even need to see this girl you don't like. Just try to be there for your friend.
2006-10-09 09:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of your friend you need to put all things aside and make the day for HER as special as possible. Shes not asking you to talk to her, hold her hand or dance with her just to stand with her for 40 miinutes so you can witness her get married. At the reception its only dinner and that doesnt take long then you can stroll around and talk to who you may and just dodge the other chick. NEVER act out at a wedding. If the other chick decides that she wants to get tipsy and make a scene be the bigger person and walk yourself outside and take a breather. People will see who the immature one. Remember you are there to witness a dear friend go through a very special time in her life. Focus on that regardless of the others that will be there,
2006-10-09 14:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by Kit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be asked to be a bridesmaid means the bride considers you a friend and wants you to stand-up to support her marriage. I have stood up in 3 weddings and haven't liked some of the bridesmaids, but it wasn't my opinion that counted - it was the bride's.
Stand-up, have a good time, and ignore the bridesmaid. The time will fly so fast between here and the wedding. :)
2006-10-09 15:10:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hold in your feelings about the other girl until the wedding is over. After all it's just one day. Tell your friend that you can't stand the girl and that you will be in the wedding to support your friend. Your friendship is much deeper than you not getting along with the other girl. Just hang in there it might be hard but you can do it, if not for yourself do it for your friend.
2006-10-09 15:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by danyette1982 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep telling yourself you are doing this for your engaged friend, she is all that matters.
If this other bridesmaid or her mother do something to hurt you or anything like that, remind them as well, to put that aside and concentrate on your mutual engaged friend.
It will be hard because there are the dress fittings, bridal shower, bachelorette party and so on and you will see her but surround yourself with others that you feel comfortable with and safe around and keep your engaged friend happy and as stress-free as possible. Concentrate on her, not the others.
Good Luck!
2006-10-09 14:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anne Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may end up being surprised at how little interaction you have with that chick. There are so many other guests at the wedding to mingle with. Various showers too.
Don't back out, you may even get over the uncomfortable feelings. I did at my bestfriend's wedding and I had a GREAT TIME!!!
2006-10-09 14:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by Vicki B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for your friends, I'm sure that you would want her to be there for you if the shoe were on the other foot. There will probably be at least another bridesmaid you can hang out with or what about the Bride!
2006-10-09 14:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by Aubrey's mommy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't back out. I was really worried about somebody showing out on my wedding day-that was probably my biggest fear. Luckly noone did. The people that didn't like each other just avoided each other and acted like the other wasn't there. Be there for your friend, but be respectful to her and her wedding day. Ignore the hell out of them! Good luck I know it's difficult.
2006-10-09 15:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you have to do for your friend. I gather that the feeling is mutual between you and the other person, so just nod & smile politely or ignore her. You have no further obligations towards her, and you do not want to screw up your friend's wedding. Being civil is the best way.
2006-10-09 15:01:18 · answer #9 · answered by ElOsoBravo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do your obligation as a friend to your girlfriend and ignore the other girl Make sure you bring a hot date that way you dont have to socialize with the other girl.
2006-10-09 14:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋