There's this shy/private guy, who's my friend, who I've known for a couple of years already. It is only recently that we started to know get to know each other, and we cliqued instantly. The thing is, he's asked me to go out a couple of times, and we did. When we got to know each other, we've talked about relationships a lot and have shared our deepest secrets with each other. We've have had conversations that have lasted for hours. We like to tease each other, and once in a while we stand or sit closer than what we usually do. When we smile at each other, we look away. He would try to make me laugh or smile all the time.
I don't know if he likes me. He hasn't said anything about it, and hasn't shown me a "for sure" sign whether or not he likes me. The thing is, he doesn't really talk to me around our mutual friends, he kinda just blows me off. When I try to ignore him, he starts talking to me again. Also he has mentioned to me he wasn't looking for a relationship either
help me....
2006-10-09 07:45:11 · 16 answers · asked by CROWN_PRINCESS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you have a very good friend who likes you allot- but he's been honest in telling you he doesn't want a relationship.
I'd ask him if he ever wants a relationship, and if so, would he tell you if he wanted a relationship with you?
Some people do not come out and say 'I like you' but his actions show he does. Respect the no relationship now thing- maybe he needs to work through something or heal from something?
2006-10-09 07:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Max 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what are you looking for? a relationship or friendship (which you already have). If you want a relationship with him talk to him about it maybe he is scared of the commitment. Or scared of you hurting him. Heck you could ask him if he wants to kiss you the next time your teasing each other and standing or sitting close to each other. Or just kiss him yourself and see where it goes from there. It sounds like your bf gf to me already and just haven't made it official by a kiss The difference between friendship and bf/gf relationship is the kissing, holding hands, hugging, or sex, going out on dates. If you do these things your a couple and if not then your friends.
2006-10-09 07:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by bucksolutions1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to ask him. It is possible that he is not sure what he wants. The question is do you really need to know right now? On some things, like the status of your relationship, he may need some more time to figure it out. Blowing you off when you are around others is not something that I would consider acceptable. Let him know how you feel about that and that you expect it to stop.
2006-10-09 07:50:33 · answer #3 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he really likes you but isn't sure what you're thinking. It also sounds like you are both confused. Maybe you're friends and his friends are not the type of people to be accepting of the two of you. Or maybe its something at home. If you can talk about anything with him this shouldn't be a problem. If you want to be with him tell him you like him and you don't care what other people think. And if its a relationship that he's afraid of tell him that you would rather not lable things. And do your best not to label things. They are what they are and that is between you and him.
2006-10-09 07:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch. if he isnt looking for a relationship there isnt much u can do. you cant force him. but you can be his best friend so when he is ready for a realtionship you are right there. the reason he blows you off infront of your mutual friends is because he doesnt want them to know that he likes you. if you really love him try to make a move on him. just a kiss or something that would tell him you like him. maybe thats all he needs.
2006-10-09 07:50:04 · answer #5 · answered by elmucki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you. if hes a shy guy, maybe its akward for him to make the first move. if you feel comfortable, say something to him. people always say they arent looking for a relationship, but isnt that exactly when love is supposed to strike? when your not expecting it. when your around everyone, hes probably just trying to play it cool cause he doesnt want to embarrass you, or is unsure what you feel, and doesnt want it to get out in the open unless hes sure. i would bring it up next time the two of you talk, whats the worst that could happen. and at least you will know. good luck.
2006-10-09 07:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by loveboatcaptain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First don't tell your deep dark secrets eespecially with some one who ignores you when your with mutual friends because believe me thats good stuff to spread around, he told you he wasn't looking for a relationship soooo let it go move on you can't make him like you I'm not trying to hurt your feeling just tell you the truth good luck!!!
2006-10-09 07:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by Dianna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys are weird. Having said that, I would really question why he doesn't talk to you around your mutual friends. That would send up a red flag for me + he said he wasn't looking for a relationship -- so maybe he is just looking for a flirt-mance.
2006-10-09 07:51:14 · answer #8 · answered by Giselle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound like he don't want a relationship he just want a good friend and if you push for more then you might lose the whole thing you all got.
2006-10-09 07:50:48 · answer #9 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most likly he does have a crush on u. some guys just like to keep it a secret and others well like to blab about it. just walk up to him and ask him if he does or doesnt if u guys talk to eachother and hang out u should beable to ask him any thing that u want. just think if u like him its a crush in return. lol! if he even turns red in the face when u ask him if he does and he says no hes lieing lol well good luck i think.
2006-10-09 07:52:54 · answer #10 · answered by jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋