He explained to me that he thought my mother had givien me up for adoption. There was never any dna testing or anything done. WHen his current wife found out I contacted him she called and threatened that I better never contact them again or I will be in trouble for harrassment. Is this true? Would I be in trouble if I tried to contact hime again? I don't even know his current address, because she kind of frightened me off a few years back. What should I do?
2006-10-09 07:38:40 · 10 answers · asked by melissa6119 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There was never any DNA testing done, so I have no proof other than my mother's word. It has been over 4 years since our contact, and I haven't heard from him since. Is it a lost cause or should I try to find him again. If he wanted to stand up to his wife (who yes I'm sure is trying to protect herself and their 2 sons) I'm sure he would have done it by now. I'm still curious though. I still want to meet him. I don't think that he believes that he is my biological father, but my mother assures me that he is. AHH
2006-10-09 07:54:24 · update #1
I spoke to him once and he seemed ok to speak to me. That was before his wife found out. After she told me to never write to him again, he sent me a letter stating to never contact again. Does this mean that I am just SOL?? Is that fair. It seems that he can't just tell me he doesn't want to acknowledge me and force me to go away can he???
2006-10-09 07:57:36 · update #2
His wife (your father or not) sounds like a greedy B I T C H. All she cares about is herself. Go ahead, try to find him. What did he say other then adoption? Was he nice to you? You can't go to jail for this, I just wish that there were nicer people in this world.
2006-10-09 07:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by james w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 00:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now if I understand you correctly you got in touch with him and everything seemed fine till his wife found out.Afterward he wrote and told you not to contact him again.
Now if this is true and he did indeed contact you and told you he wanted no futher contact then you need to let it go before you hurt yourself futher.I'm sure his wife played a big role in his decision to tell you he wants no futher contact.But if he truly wnated to be apart of your life he would stand up for you.Just the fact that he didn't should tell you something.I know it's hard but you need to move on.I walked in your shoes myself.Lost my father when I was five.Found him six yrs ago.Wish I hadn't now.Trust me and save yourself heartace.Move on and don't look back.That's what he has planned
2006-10-09 08:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by geargrinderno1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife reunited with her father after 25 years. Her parents divorced, but she was denied access to her father by her mother. He sent christmas and birthday cards and letters, but she never received them because her mother threw them away. Now she and her father have a great relationship.
2006-10-09 07:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are really interested in contacting your real father, you should not let someone who feels threaten by their husband's child stop you from contacting him, unless he says he doesn't want any contact with you. i don't see how anyone could say they are being harrassed when a child is trying to make communications with teir father. good luck
2006-10-09 07:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did your part in letting him know you want to get to know him. Now he needs to do his part. Either he takes a stand or stays the wimp and does what his wife tells him to do.
2006-10-09 07:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact your father he will want to know you even if his wife doesn't want you to. Its worth the risk anyway.
2006-10-09 07:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her get in your way, especially if he seems to want to get to know you. She's probably afraid of how all this would affect her and their family. She can't get you for harassment if you aren't harassing her! He could but I bet you he wouldn't want to. Be strong and give him a chance.
2006-10-09 07:46:20 · answer #8 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if that's your father she can't do that , if her accepts your calls there is nothing she can do......she is jealous
2006-10-09 07:48:48 · answer #9 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she cant if thats your father you can
2006-10-09 07:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by fayem7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋