I have been with my fiance for almost two years. She loves me very much and I love her. She has not been wanting to have sex with me as much as we used to. I think she is getting bored. She really enjoys it when we do and says i am the best she has ever had. She is just not in the mood as much...what do i do to fix this.....
thanks for the help
2006-10-09 07:38:11 · 15 answers · asked by Michael 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its not that i ask alot...sometimes i dont ask for a week and she still is not in the mood....she says is is not me and that it her not in the mood......and it not like i come out and ask...i try to get her in the mood but it just does not work sometimes...
2006-10-09 11:34:05 · update #1
Be Spontaneous and ROMANTIC !!! Girls love that. Surprise her w/ dinner (in or going out). When you are in a relationship for a while things get "boring", you are comfortable together, but it doesn't mean the relationship gone straight to hell (yet). Stir the pot a little, go out, get drinks, role play at the bar..and try and take her home!!! It' s all in good fun. HAVE FUN TOGETHER!!! THAT'S THE MOST IMPORTANT PART. Another thing is kissing, if she comes home one night, just grab her (gently) and make out, those nice tender, hold the back of head (grab a little hair!!) make out sessions..those are AMAZING!!! If her clothes don't come off...maybe there is something going on a little deeper, try TALKING to her and listening..b/c sometimes guys don't listen to us when we are talking. Good Luck, I want to give you more but I don't want to take up the entire Q & A..lol..you want more..e-mail me!!!
2006-10-09 07:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my husband for 17 years, married for 14. We go through what I call cycles. Sometimes we have sex 3-5 times a week, and other times, 3-5 a month. If you look back, can you see a cycle, or is the quantity going down steadily?
If it's going down steadily, have you asked her if you're doing something wrong? Are you doing something different? Maybe you're not taking time to arouse her in the beginning.
Try to make a list of those little things you know she likes that lead up to sex--not during it. Make sure you do those things on a regular basis.
Finally, remember that women like sex for different reasons than men (on most occassions), so find out what it's about for her: is it feeling attractive and sexy? is it connecting with you on a different level? is it the companionship?
2006-10-09 07:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by Katyana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She loves you very much and you love her...you can fix everything else. You might want to find a new position, that worked for me. Also, men think in terms of "having sex" women think in terms of "making love". Don't just "have sex". You have to prepare her for it. When's the last time you two took a bubble bath together? Cop a feel when you can, tell her how much you love her. Just kiss and hold her. It doesn't always have to be about SEX. The more you make her feel like you would do anything for her, she will want to do ANYTHING for you. You got to give to get.
2006-10-09 07:50:00 · answer #3 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a couple of nights, put all your attention on her and do everything that makes her crazy and makes her go wild, that will spice it up a little more and she be more in the mood.
2006-10-09 07:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. You might want to change things up like get rose pedals and put them all over the bed and leave a tail to the bed and have candles. Make her a special dinner.
2006-10-09 07:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by KT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, maybe she's just tired of you asking. Try not asking about it for several days, and then just one night make a move. And give her a few compliments that arn't out of the norm, but enough so she knows you notice her.
2006-10-09 07:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by Ask&Receive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a little romance surprise her with a little gift sneak up behind her kiss her neck her ear and get her hot and bothered. Sometimes that is all it takes
2006-10-09 07:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is ont he contraceptive pill, get her to change it (she will have to see her Dr).
My GF was loosing her sex drive on the pill until she saw her Dr about it. Now she's almost desperate for my clock
J
2006-10-09 07:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry her!!!! She is probably feeling a bit used. She's probably holding off until after the marriage.
2006-10-09 07:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow it sounds like bad news. Talk with her and open your feelings about it, there should be an explanation for it for sure.
2006-10-09 07:41:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋