I'm 18 and pregnant i need some encouragement?

Question

I am 18 and think i may be pregnant, when my dad died i began to get social securty and have saved a good chunk of money. I had a 3.0 gpa in high school and have not started college, i was going to use the money i have saved to take some classes in being a maturnity nurse i love kids i cant wait to have kids but im really worried that this might put a lot of weight on my goals and that i wont have enough money when its all said and done to go back to school. My boyfriend is 24 and we have been together over a year and have known each other for almost 4 years, were very much in love. i have no doubt he would make a great father but im scared to tell are parents, we both have good jobs he is a dental technitican and is going to become a dentist hopefully and i work full time as a secertary at a trucking company, i make ok money and will get a raise in a few weeks, i know i could be a great mom but im scared to, any advice? Thanks

Thanks so much for all of your answers i really feel more confident in what i want to do i now i can do what i have to do and im sure ill be a good mom thanks agian

Answer 1

Finding out you are going to be a parent is an emotional mixture of joy and fear. Being a parent is very hard work and can also be the most wonderful thing in your life.

It sounds like your bf is a good guy. You might want to discuss getting married. Being a family helps create an environment that is important for the child.

Register at Babies R Us so that friends and family who love you can help with the initial expenses.

Your parents will be thrilled to have a grandchild, even if they aren't thrilled about it happening right now.

CONGRATULATIONS!

Answer 2

Hey girl, you'll be fine. You will both make really good parents. Don't be ashamed to tell your family this is something you should be happy about as long as you think that you will make a good mom and that you can do it this should b the best time of your life! It seems like you have your life together and that is a really good thing!

Sweety stop worrying you will be fine! A lot of people get pregnant and married at 18, that dont even have there life together because they don't seem to care but you do so you have a wonderful gift use it if you are pregnant to go make a wonderful mom!

Good luck, and let me know!

Answer 3

Parenthood is a big step. Your concern is natural. A child is at least an 18 year commitment of time, effort, energy and finances. You don't say what your boyfriend's reaction is. If you two are truly in love and had planned to marry, that's one thing, if, on the other hand, you are not certain of your future together, that is another. Both of you must be committed to bringing up a child and to each other.

Your mother may be disappointed that you are pregnant, at 18 (if indeed you are) but she will love you anyway and she will be an excellent source of support and information for you. Tell her.

Finally, if you decide you are not able to commit to bringing up a child, please consider adoption. There are so many couples out there who cannot have children and who long for a child. You didn't plan on getting pregnant and the baby didn't ask to be born. Neither of you should be punished but you both deserve a chance to live your lives. I'm no big pro-lifer, but as a woman who couldn't have children, I have empathy for those who are like me.

Good luck.

Answer 4

First, I am also 18. I am also pregnant with my first baby. A Girl in fact. I can completely see where you are. I was in the same spot. My husband (we got married as soon as we found out) is the greatest. He is 20. My parents are very big in our city and well i was terrified to let them know the big news. But I did. You think thats its going to be terrible. But you know what, what if it turns out that your parents will be happy about it. I was in college too. And you know what I am still worried about the future. But my little girl will be here in two more months and I wouldn't change that. I know that I will be a great mother and my husband will be a great father. Keep your head high and don't let anyone tell you that you were wrong for what you did. You can never be ashamed of a perfect little baby who loves yo uunconditionally. Please write me at my email if you would like. Maybe we have a lot in common. Well anyways best of luck. [e-mail].

Answer 5

Well, I hope you have ruled out abortion. Don't worry about your goals. I am in college full time with 2 small children. It's actually better than working and raising children. There's definitely financial help out there for you. You should actually be able to get day care paid for by the state if you are low-income and in school. Don't worry....kids are great, and there are so many programs out there to help you. You won't have to postpone your dreams, and everything you ever dreamed of will be possible, plus, you will have a precious child who I guarantee will be the light of your life!! You won't regret having the baby, and everything will work out.
About the parents?? Well, I came from an extremely religious, strict family. I was tempted to hide my baby when I became pregnant for the first time. But, everything worked out. My mom was upset, but she was also supportive. She cared about me and loved me, so therefore, she also cared about the baby inside of me. She wanted the best for me, so she said that I and the baby could live with her until I was okay to be on my own. It will be fine. Even if your parents seem like they hate you because you are pregant, they won't. They'll probably be okay within a week.
Hope that helps.

Answer 6

no matter how old you are you are scared when yourpregnant even if its number 1 2 3 4 or 100 not that anyone has 100 but...... this just shows you care about your baby you'll always be scared for them. It sound like you have a good head on your shoulders you are in a lot better boat than alot of mom myself included. your gonna be ok even though you will never feel like it. thats normal. First thing is first find out if you are pregnant if so its one step at a time God and if its true CONGRATS!!!

Answer 7

I don't think you should worry about a thing. Everything is gonna be okay. The things that really matter, like you having a supportive boyfriend that will be a great father and you both have a job, you have... so don't worry. And, I'm sure you will be able to go back to school, even if it's not until your baby is a year or so old, you will eventually be able to go. I'm sure you will be a great mom and I wish you all the best. goodluck.

Answer 8

Dont have an abortion. That will screw up your body. I know a lady who had an abortion at your age. She couldnt have kids ever again after that. You have 2 real choices:
Keep the baby or give it up for adoption. I say keep the baby. You are 18, so you should tell your parents. Children are so precious, and I know that everything will work out for you. It also sounds like you have a job that will not interfere with your pregnancy. Maybe your mom of bf mom can help with the baby after its born. Dont worry about paying for college, there are loans for that.

Answer 9

don't stress,ur young and now pregnant.it sounds like u both have 2 good jobs for u to take care of the baby.and don't scare ur self to death about telling ur parents,of course they might think that its to early for u all because u haven't had very much of a future yet ,but be honest with ur parents if u give them respect they'll do the same and once the baby arrives the only thing that's going to matter is the babies and ur health .and should make the people that r close to u even closer......good luck and congrats

Answer 10

Are you secure enough to leave your job for delivery of your child and have you told the father, also you should pursue college so you will have the tools and salary to support a family, there is always time to start a family, especially when you are prepared for it, If he's going to be a dentist he must stay in school and then how will you support yourself and a newborn.P.S. have looked into financial aid for school, if not do so.