I started dating my girl friend in June of 2002.It started off rocky because she still missed her ex boyfriend who had broken up with her March of that same year.She seemed like she did not know what she wanted for that six months, then she finally decided she wanted me (so she says).Things were fine until I left for college, when I came back home May 2005, I found out that she had cheated been cheating on me for a month with someone who came out of the blue (who was not her ex boyfriend). My friend had saw her at wal mart with the guy and as soon as he told me, I left and confronted her.She broke up with me when I found her.I was moving on and then she came back and said the new guy had treated her like crap and she wanted to get back with me.I was very reluctant at first but then after much talking I decided to give it a shot. This was August 2005.She hasn't cheat yet its been over a year but I can't get last year out of my head. Should I try to work it out or should I break it off?
2006-10-09 07:30:40 · 16 answers · asked by HHH 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is up to you to decide what you think is best for you but as someone who has been there before and is going threw it now. It probably best to end the relationship if you are not able to get what happened out of your mind, chances are the thoughts of you betrayl, (no matter how long ago) will not leave your memory, and that is perfectly understandable. I know that I was never able to forget. I used to be one of those people who used to say isn't it possible for someone who cheated to never cheat again, and I guess that sometimes it is possible, but usually its not, and even if that person never cheats again the relationship seemes to still be doomed to that fact you can't get off your mind the time they did. I hope everything works out for the best, good luck
2006-10-09 07:42:47 · answer #1 · answered by Thandie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't even need to read any further, your problem is that you was a rebound guy. If you come into someones life right after a break-up most likely you are a rebound. Be careful, right now you guys probably need to slow down almost to a stop. Take it back to the beginning you both need to be friends. She is more than likely going to cheat again, she had just got out of a relationship and jumped back into one. She is soaring her oats, don't put any more emotions into the relationship, just take it for what it's worth and chill. Good luck.
2006-10-09 07:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's all up to you. Can you live with this? Can you get over it? Will you always think about it and wonder if she is cheating? Is it more important to be with her than the cheating incident? In my opinion, once a cheater, always a cheater, but you have to make this decision yourself. What if you have to leave again for a few days, weeks or months? Can you trust her? If someone cheated on me I would never forgive them. If they truly loved me they wouldn't have hurt me. Good luck.
2006-10-09 07:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is going to harm you even extra effective than it did so which you will permit her pass in case you shop her on your existence. I basically broke up with the daddy of my son after 4 years and we could see one yet another each and every now and then. It hurts nonetheless so in case you haven't any longer any reason to maintain her around would i remind you she CHEATED distinctive circumstances and truly harm YOU AS a guy to do away together with her. basically pass out and hit upon a lovable female to distract you and it is generally much less complicated to overlook each and every of the soreness she brought about you.
2016-10-16 00:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have cut all contact immediately when she cheated.If there are no children or a marriage between you it is best to walk away. There is nothing to stop her from doing it again especially since she thinks you will get over it.If she really cared she wouldn't do something to hurt you.Move on.
2006-10-09 07:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break it off or let it be knowned to her that its going to take alot of trust for the relationship to work and that if she cheats again theres no turning back if it was me i would break it off cause i will always think about it and everytime they walk out that door youll torture yourself thinking about what they are doing its not worth the headache or stress good luck
2006-10-09 07:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by WeFlyHigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your better than nothing. There are so many people in this world...why not find out what all is out there? You have your whole life to be tied down.
2006-10-09 07:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you can't trust her you need to break up. your relationship will never be healthy if you keep stressing over her past mistake. You need to be with someone you can trust and if its not her then move on.
2006-10-09 07:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure she hasn't done it again forget it and move on but if she triers it again then get rid of her. Everyone can make 1 mistake as long as its only 1
2006-10-09 08:17:43 · answer #9 · answered by stud200_uk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You state she has not cheated since... are you sure? Your friend saw her at walmart telling me that she did not care if you knew or not... she did not take your feelings into consideration... dump her!
2006-10-09 07:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋