We connected very quickly and love being together. We both have been celibate for five years. Two days later, I am freaking out, knowing that it happened too fast, but also sure that I care for him. Is premarital sex such a huge issue when one is in her 40's? I would appreciate advice.
2006-10-09 07:27:46 · 19 answers · asked by Sincerely84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i really don't think that premarital sex is a huge issue at all, regardless of age. but everyone has their own view. i think that if you both connected that quickly, expressing your love physically was a very natural and loving thing and you really should be happy, not feeling guilty. 5 years is a long time and it's obvious that making love is something you take to heart, which is rare these days and good ;)
2006-10-09 08:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by green eyed sole 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lets just say we should have some gain with our age. Uncaring sex is always a big deal, but what you are talking about is perfectly acceptable. No one is using anyone else, no one put pressure on anyone, it was just a very happy and loving time had by all. Of course precautions must be taken, you don't want a late life baby and stds can remain active for years after contraction so you have to be just as careful as any other age group about that.
Other than that, have a good time, its only too fast if you aren't happy with him.
2006-10-09 07:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hon, your both adults and been there, done that. No one can or should dictate when it is too soon to have sex when BOTH of the parties involved are agreeance to do it WHEN they feel like it. Also, the deed is done so stop fretting about it. Once you get up in age (I'm 37) there is sooo much of the beginning stage and crapola that you don't need. Your older and wiser. Hold your head and do NOT live life with regrets. Take care.
2006-10-09 07:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well apparently premarital sex is not a big deal anymore and it is not like you are a virgin. If he is not having a problem with it do not worry about it. Sometimes when you are older things just happen quickly and are right
2006-10-09 07:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 41 and I would say that premarital sex is not a huge issue as long as you used protection against STDs.
If you enjoyed it, try not to feel regrets. What is there to regret?
2006-10-09 07:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by Katyana 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think premarital sex is such a biggie. Its probably better to 'test drive' your partner and make sure you are totally compatiable.
2006-10-09 07:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by smutmonkey71 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you some kind of prude waiting 2 whole weeks????/ lol no, sorry just teasing. No it's not a big deal especially at our age. This is usually when women are in their prime sexually anyway. Don't feel bad or sweat it.
2006-10-09 07:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously, the best answer is to wait until marriage, but if he didn't dump you after a few months of sex, then you are probably onto something really good. Best of luck to you!
2006-10-09 07:31:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you care for each other and want to be together, why should it be an issue? Enjoy it and stop with the guilt. Are you Catholic or something? hehe.
2006-10-09 07:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just follow your heart. if you think that you are moving to fast then slow it down some. you can have a great relationship without having sex all the time.
2006-10-09 07:31:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋