My son is eight and complains if i ask him to tidy his room. Should he be doing this by himself now?
2006-10-09 07:19:09 · 53 answers · asked by jod97 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he should have been doing it 2 years ago love.
2006-10-09 07:21:30 · answer #1 · answered by L6 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No a child is never to young to be doing chores. You should encourage your child to help with whatever you are doing. My youngest is 5 and she helps with everything. Hoovering, dusting, washing up, tidying up, cooking etc. This is the time that we bond because i work we don't have as much time together as i would like. This is a time for me to find out what she has been doing at school and her to know what i have been doing. You really should of started earlier then know. There is also the other side tell him if the room is not tidy then you will give away anything that is on the floor to charity as you believe that he does not want it. Then put everything in a box and place it by the front door ready to go. When he realises that you mean business then come to an agreement that he can only have two things out of the box each week if he continues to clean his room. Or decide between you both what can really go to charity to children who do not have anything. Good luck
2006-10-10 02:45:57 · answer #2 · answered by christine w 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As soon as they can drag it out they should be able to put it back. Even at a very young age they can be taught that working is fun. You can play games with them as they work. Such as "I'll race you to put this toy away." or "find all the blue toys." Even an egg timer can work well. Set it for five minutes and challenge the child to have a small chore done by then. Larger jobs can be divided into five minute intervals and can seem less overwhelming to children. For example if they are cleaning a very messy room then five minutes could be spent on picking up just the clothing. Then another five on making the bed. So on and so forth.
There can and should be some type of reward for a job well done however even if it is verbal. Make the child feel good about what they have accomplished.
We all like to be recognized by our boss etc. for doing our work well. Kids are no different.
2006-10-09 13:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by M C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think your son realizes how lucky he's been!! My son just turned 5 and has had chores since he was 2. Obviously, nothing big. He pickes up his own toys, puts away his clothes, takes care of his dinner dishes, cleans his own room. As much as he complains about these things, he is excited when he is done each one and knows that he is a big kid. I'm sure son is going to complain as well - but he will get the satisfaction eventually of knowing that can do things for himself and not have to rely on your for everything. Good Luck!!
2006-10-09 07:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by CodysMom1009 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My kids were up the chimneys by the time they were 8!!
Seriously, I started my kids doing chores at probably 3 or 4. Just small stuff, even if it is just holding something while I work. They enjoy helping, its good fun and makes them realise that they have to contribute, and they get rewarded accordingly.
My 8 year old lad helps with all my DIY now and tidies his room etc. The kids take it in turns to set and clear the table and loads of other small chores.
2006-10-09 07:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by James H 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is not too young, but is too young to think of doing it without being reminded most of the time.
You might need to walk by his room halfway through the alloted time to make sure he hasn't got distracted and is just playing with the stuff he should be tidying away!
I don't have a reward system for doing things I consider necessary - like keeping bedrooms in some sort of order. I do impose penalties for not doing those things - like no games or not allowed to have friends over for the day. I give rewards for extras - if he takes it upon himself to do something without being asked etc.
You're doing him a favour by teaching him these things don't get done by the housekeeping fairy - don't feel a bit guilty about asking this of him.
2006-10-09 07:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by RM 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes my son is 9 and he has been doing the tidying of his room since he was about 7 and a half, he also has chores like throwing the dirty washing down in the morning.
i got chores from the age of 7 and it has taught me how to look after myself as an adult.
it also teaches them responsibility. but always reward for good chores.
2006-10-09 08:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My son is 5 and he has to clean his room when he messes it up. I do not think 8 is too young. He should be taking on more. Maybe taking the trash out to the curb on garbage days. His room is his area, you don't mess it up why should you clean it? The taking out of the trash should be considered a chore and he should get an allowance for it!
2006-10-09 07:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by Pimp E 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
eight yrs old is not too young for some one to start doing chores especially asking them to tidy his room. start out with a few chores and as they get older you give them more resonseability. and they will start picking up after them selves cause they will learn that they wont have so much too do at once.
2006-10-09 07:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by Ozark American 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My son is nine and he has chores? Cleaning his room is a must and it's also his job to take out the trash. There nothing wrong with letting them have a little responsibility, it gives them character. Sometimes he help me with the dishes and cleaning the house, but he doesn't complain. He knows that I don't play that.
2006-10-09 07:27:08 · answer #10 · answered by Singingmama 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriend is 19 and still doesn't do any chores, his mum does everything!! well once he mowed the lawn and gave it a mohican! Needless to say his parents weren't that impressed! I dont think it's too young and tidying his room isn't that big a deal.
2006-10-09 07:24:12 · answer #11 · answered by Sazi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋