So my girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. As of late we have been having some arguments, but that’s all fixed up now. We are in sort of a long distance relationship, nothing major, but she goes to college an hour away.
I visited her this past weekend, and we had a great time. However, when she went to take a shower I was a little nosey. I read in her diary that she had a crush on someone in her class, and in the following dates in her journal she wrote that he is a refreshment of attention, because I’m not there and that she likes him. I also read that she plans to ask him out for coffee.
Should I be worried about this? I kind of hinted towards not cheating on me and everything over the weekend, and on the phone-- yet she swears that she would never do anything like that.
She leaves me messages and texts that she love and misses me so much, but I can’t get over the fact that she wrote that she had a CRUSH on someone else…and that she is interested in someone else…
Am I getting too worked up over this? Should I let her go out with this guy, and not say anything?
2006-10-09 07:16:49 · 17 answers · asked by Kyle W 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
These are all great answers, I appreciate your insight.
2006-10-09 07:34:28 · update #1
if you guys are together- there's no space or room for another man in her life. You should confront her about what you read because her going out with him will give them both a channce to be alone and anything can happen betweent he two of them especially because you know she likes him. Talkt o her and clarify things. You guys live far from each other adn god knows what kidns of things she hasn't already done since you're not around. She's an idiot for writting stuff like that on her diary knowing anyone can get their hands on it. If i were you- i'd visit ehr again on this weekend coming-d istract her and steal her diary from her. God knows what else she's wirtten down that she's done. That way you'll get the truth out of her and she won't deny anything else she's done (if she has) because she wrote it herself. You sound like a good guy. Don't let her make a fool of you!
2006-10-09 07:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. so you think your g/f of 1 yr may cheat on you or may have already cheated on you. Well if you read her diary then obviously something is either wrong w/you or your relationship in the 1st place. Im currently in a long distance relationship also he lives about 45min. away from me so i kind of know how you feel about all of this but you just need to ask her if she's made any new friends or has any plans see if she mentions the guy if she doesnt then well you need to come clean w/what you read and well things may not turn out the way you'd hope and it'll be for the better!
2006-10-09 07:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by JWO teddy bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go out with the other guy, but don't say nothing. At some point this is going to have to come out, or you will always have something bad between the two of you regardless of the outcome, and especially if you two end up together.
I would be honest that you read her diary, and now that you've
read what you read a conversation needs to occur. Keep the air clear.
2006-10-09 07:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you read the "diary" , ?? I'm sorry for you, guy. It's not always good to know every corner of a person's heart, because they're their hearts, even they swear that their heart is yours, you know it's not really so..., how do you feel when the devil "Curiousity" in your mind satisfy? Are u happy? ...if you are, let the devil "Jealousy" control you and eat the rest Happiness you've got...I feel pity for ur girlfriend more than u, she seems to care much 4 u, phone, messages, and she really misses you...I guess...if she doesn't, she won't do that because woman seems to concerntrate on 1 man at 1 point of time only. But this guy , is the happiness she has at the moment that you lost in this realtionship. Have you ever wondered how to make her cheer up so much that she will write it beside your name on the book like she did it to the guy in her class...?
2006-10-09 07:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by candle l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are on a long distance relationship is hard to trust one another. Deep inside you, there is always a wonder of what she is doing and who she is with. But think that you can't control anything that she does or will do. If she really loves you she will be honest and tell you that is not working out and that she wants to be with someone else.
But if she shows you love take and be there for her, things happen for a reason and if later you two aren't meant to be it won't be. Don't stress about it, that just puts in a bad mood.
2006-10-09 07:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by latina lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You read her diary? That shows that you have issues trusting her, and maybe there is a problem with this relationship. I would NOT confront her about it. She will be angry with you for reading her diary. You could try talking to her about her general feelings towards the relationship without mentioning the guy she has a crush on. Then you'd know where you stand.
2006-10-09 07:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey in case you have already got data he's cheating ("So i think of my bf is cheating doing the web element I do have data, yet he hides his "cookies" temp archives which could hint what you're doing on line.. ") why could you prefer to proceed torturing your self finding for extra data? in simple terms kick him to the cut back noone merits to be cheated on. i understand its much less annoying stated than completed by way of fact i'm useful you like him, yet love your self extra. No guy is ever worth your tears.
2016-11-27 02:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's in college...do you really want her to not meet anyone else, not to see what else is out there? How is she going to know YOU are the one if she doesn't know what is out there? What happens if she doesn't date anyone but you then you get married and she meets someone that she likes better. Wouldn't it be better for her to make sure YOU are the one BEFORE you get married. ? If you are ment to be together, you will be.
2006-10-09 07:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationships are very hard, i'm someone who likes atention from my man and when i do get i i feel very down...i dont tihnk that she wants to cheat but she just wants attention, like male attention...but i do think you should talk to her cause having doubts can bring probs in a relationship...DONT TELL EHR U READ HER DIARY CAUSE SHE'LL BE PISSD! hope it helps and works out!
2006-10-09 07:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not a lot you can do unless you wish to confront her and she won't like you reading her diary. Better it happen now that before you get married.
2006-10-09 07:19:55 · answer #10 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋