Tell me what is your religion, and if you are Christian, what is your denomination.
I know that many Christians think their religion justified physical punishment of children, but I don't know if this is typical for some special denomination.
2006-10-09 06:53:46 · 20 answers · asked by Elly 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There are MANY Christians out there with the "spare the rod" mentality. I do not spank or hit my child. I respect him. If I expect him not to solve problems with violence, or hit people smaller than him, then I should not hit him. Funny, I never felt this way about it until I actually had a child of my own. I think that a spanking, used properly, is not abuse in and of itself, but I just can't do it to my child. BTW, I'm Assemblies of God and most parents DO spank in that church.
2006-10-09 07:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by Char 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The Christian Bible has many passages about the physical punishment of children, there have been many examples already given. Many Christians also do not believe in corpral punishment. This is an issue that you must search your own heart and soul for. There are Bible passages to support both sides. Sit down with your spouse and pastor and decide for yourself. But remember for everything there is a season, and whatever you choose do not take it too far.
2006-10-09 07:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by weebles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its "not about PHYSICAL PUNISHMENT, its about ACTIONS AND CONSEQUENCES." And "spare the rod and spoil the child is part of this action and consequences."
By not punishing your child you show them there are no consequences to their actions and so they feel that nothing they do affects anyone or anything else. But, by "explaining" what they did was wrong, and waiting until you are no longer upset to punish them, then when you are not upset, punish them. Why wait? Because, this protects the child from abuse and yourself from becoming an abuser, which is always a bad thing.
The problem with todays world is "the cult of victimhood." Where everyone feels they are Victims and so they can do anything because its justified in their thoughts, after all, they were abused, manhandled, not given enough allowance, etc. This is weak and BS, everyone has to fight their way through life, there are no free passes, not even if your perfect.
Physical punishment is not used nearly enough these days.
2006-10-09 07:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The bible says spare the rod and spoil the child. I have taught and been in management in the daycare business for many years. Each year we have to take a course in positive discipline. I believe that sometimes certain nonphysical punishments are fine and you can make the punishment fit the crime. As long as the child understands what he or she is being corrected for then you have won half the battle. Physical punishment to me is to be used sparingly and only when the actions of the child have placed himself or others in physical harms way. I believe that we as parents should understand that some things we take for granted as childrens rights are actually priviledges and as such have to be earned. They have a right to have food on the table that is healthy and nutritional sound. It is a priviledge to have dessert. They have a right to be loved. Friendships are a priviledge that should be handled with care. We have to stop trying to be our childrens best friends and get back to parenting. That means knowing who your child's friends are and limiting their time spent around people who are not going to be positive influences on your child. You have a right to look through your childs things because they are in your house and you owe it to them to be concerned enough to now what they are doing at all times. You have a right to show up unexpectedly at a friends house or a place where your child has a date planned to make sure they are where they are supposed to be. If you do those things randomly, once every blue moon then your child knows in the back of his/her mind that they should be where they are supposed to be when they are supposed to be because they never know when you might just show up. You have an obligation to show interest in your childs schoolwork and grades. A child who kows they are supported at home will do better than one who is left to their own devises. The use of the phone is a priviledge that must be earned. Respect and trust are things your child must earn, they are not a given.
2006-10-09 07:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am Catholic. I would say you have to qualify your question. What do you mean by physical punishment? Scripture does speak of physical punishment:
[Prov 22:15] Folly is close to the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.
But as in all things moderation would be prudent. A smack on the bottom when a child continues to reach for the stove would be OK. Beating a child is not.
2006-10-09 07:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by Robert L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My religion doesn't justify physical punishment as a first resort. First should come verbal chastising, then some sort of time out then a whipping. The bible warns about punishing your child to much to the point that he/she gives up wanting to please you.
Some people take this to far. My daughter is a gift from GOD, I do punish her but it's not just a whippin it is used with a discussion about what she did wrong, and why it's wrong, and why she shouldn't do it again, but usually just raising my voice at her fixes the problem....
2006-10-09 06:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by JaimeM 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As a Muslim, I can tell you that prophet Mohamed (Peace Be Upon Him) told us to deal children in a gentle way and not to hit them till they reach 7 years old, during his first 7 years, a children must be dealt with in a gentle way, parents must play with their children, this's the way children have to be dealt with in the early age.
After the age of 7, parents may use physical punishment with children when they make a mistake, but with mercy and not with physical harm to them, meaning that the physical punishment in this case is to give the child a message that he made big mistake and they have not to do that again.
2006-10-09 07:40:28 · answer #7 · answered by Green visitor is back :D 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. In my new religion, Potteranity, the children actually have all the power, so there's no worries about physical punishment.
2006-10-09 07:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by ReeRee 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
non-denominational Christian -
Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; But the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
Proverbs 23:13 Withhold not correction from the child; For if thou hit him with the rod, he will not die.
Proverbs:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom; But a child left to himself causeth shame to his mother.
This is NOT condoning child abuse in any way, shape, or form. I do not beleive in leaving any mark whatsoever on a child.
2006-10-09 06:58:53 · answer #9 · answered by Shamus 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Presby.... 'spare the rod, spoil the child'? I think that punishment should be in a different form than hitting. Back then, there wasn't much to take away or forbid to do. Children worked as the parents did. Now, their lives are toys and cartoons and video games.
2006-10-09 06:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by TCFKAYM 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋