I went with a girl to homecoming last weekend and everything seemed to go very well. Yeserday, while talking to her friends, who by the waqy are really cool and i highly doubt they would lie to me about it, found out that she has been saying **** behind my back and that she dislikes me. Before i blow up, let me say this: I am and honor student and captain of the school swim team. She is not very athletically, socially, and aceademically inclined (to put into nicer words). So basically, I went out with a loser. Before askeing her to homecoming, i went in wiht an open mind thinking that she could be a really cool person if i got to know her. During the time before, during, and sfter the dance, I was reall, really nice to her. I gave her my jacket when she was cold, i was really sweet, and i helped her with things. I also defended her when my friends made fun of her. Her friends think that she is very stupid for doing this, cuz they say im the best she ever gonna get. wat shud i do?
2006-10-09 06:52:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel like i have been lied to the whole time. I feel unappreciated for all the nice things. Im am pretty angry about it. I always defended her and dont deserve this kind of treatement. Also, she is very hard to talk to, so idk even know if talking to her will solve anything.
2006-10-09 06:54:05 · update #1
Why are you obsessing over this so-called 'loser'.
Leave her in the dust and move on.
2006-10-09 06:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by bill m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, don't sweat the small stuff. Just move on. There are lots of smart educated girls to meet. Her friends might have made the stuff up anyway. Don't waste your energy on trivial stuff. You need to go out with a girl who is your equal. This girl will only drag you down. The best thing to do is stay away from her. That is the best way to get even instead of blowing up in her face. Ok? Hope this helps.
2006-10-09 14:14:49 · answer #2 · answered by righteousrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you have seen movies like, 'another teen movie' and others like it. She probably feels like you took her out to humiliate her. You are a socially, athletically, aceademically inclined guy. Yes, you defended her against your friends, but truth is, you never should have HAD to. Going with her was YOUR choice, and YOUR friends are not very nice friends for making her feel so bad about being her, and being with you. They don't sound like *FRIENDS* at all. She doesn't mean those things she is saying behind your back........ she is scared, she REALLY likes YOU, but your friends hurt her, embarrassed her, and made her feel *SMALL*. You have every reason to be hurt and upset.... but if you really like this girl, then you will see things the way she does. YOU want to talk to her? Don't embarrass her and belittle her because you have hurt feelings. Call her at home, or talk to her after school, or ask if you can see her at her home and talk to her in her back yard or something. Explain to her that you like HER, that you don't care about what your friends say, and that you realize they are not REAL friends anyway. Tell her you heard what she is saying , but you don't blame her after what she went through and how she was feeling. Tell her that you want to get to know her, and you REALLY don't care about what other people say......... (If you really feel this way). She is saying these things to protect herself from the others girls that like you........so that they don't harrasse her at school, and to keep your friends off of her back. If they think she doesn't like you, and that she had a horrible time, then they will leave her alone. If you really like this girl, you will see her side, and you will talk to her in an understanding way, and let her know that if she likes you too, as much as you like her, then you will take care of everyone at school. You want to be with her, and you want her to be with you too. Good luck........ blessed be.
2006-10-09 15:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your own words: basically I went out with a loser.
My questions: Why?
Just to be sure, you owe it to her and yourself to ask her if the story her friends told you is true...?
But you call her a loser and demean her, so why do you want to know what to do?
Sorry, I don't get it.
2006-10-09 14:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by Pat K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...sounds like a story ripped right out of Degrassi Junior High....
2006-10-09 13:55:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it, just becuase her friends say she is doing something doesnt mean its true...
2006-10-09 13:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by andy2020@prodigy.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget about it
2006-10-09 13:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her loss.
2006-10-09 13:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋