2006-10-09 06:40:48 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
HELL NO... the husband to be's parents should fork over some loot too! That is the OLDEST tradition in the book and it sucks! Parents of both the bride and groom should help as well as the bride and groom themselves.
2006-10-09 06:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Traditionally, the parents of the bride used to pay the whole cost of the wedding and the groom's parents paid for the rehearsal dinner and gave a nice monetary gift to be used on the honeymoon. The idea was that the couple was too young to have saved any money, and usually the bride hadn't gotten any job. BUT... in the modern day and age, when brides and grooms don't get married so young anymore, many couples pay for their own weddings, or contribute substantially to it. The parents of the bride and groom have the opportunity (but not the obligation) to help pay. Often the couples' parents each pitch in some money with the one who can afford the most, paying the most. My husband I paid for 3/4 of our daughter's marriage because the groom's mother was a widow and had no extra money. Our son's bride had plenty of money,so we chipped in to pay for the band for their wedding and gave them a large check to use on their honeymoon. But, that is just an example. There are no strict rules anymore.
2006-10-09 06:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is how the tradition was when weddings were much simpler affair like a hall in the church basement and food was brought in from all the guests and friends. Now they are quite expensive elaborate events never imagined in the old days when the tradition began. How many parents could afford their daughters college then $25000-$40000(typical cost in Chicago) for a wedding usually when they are only 10-15 years from retirement, and knowing that the marriage has only a 50 % chance of surviving. Today you find the bride and groom paying for the wedding and paying for it out of what they take in for wedding gifts.
2006-10-09 06:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by tman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old School yes now a days it does not matter as long as it is done with love, and not charity. I am a wedding coordinator and , have seen the Groom and the Brides parents together pay for all of it, and it was a great wedding with more love in the families than you could imagine.
2006-10-09 06:46:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
These days, it seems the parents are paying for less and less. I was not happy with the amount my parents offered me (just over $5K for a Dallas wedding) so we had to improvise. My groom's parents are not well off at all and are contributing in other ways that are not monetary. I would say my fiance and I are putting at least $2-3K into the wedding. If finances are a problem, try putting your wedding off for over a year so you can purchase items along the way and not in one bulk sum at the end. Use whatever money your parents gave you for the most important items and look for the cheapest things possible without looking cheap. Hit up wedding chatboards like this one and theknot.com for advise on cheaper solutions. You are not alone when it comes to being financially strapped and there are a lot of creative girls out there that are willing to help.
2006-10-09 10:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by Molly1015 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it says in all the wedding books that the brides family is supposed to pay for the majority of the things but i am not so much able to agree with that since it is the both of them getting married and i feel that the whole group should split the costs of things(bride, groom, brides family and the grooms family). it is not fair that the brides family get stuck with the whole bill.
2006-10-09 07:21:27 · answer #6 · answered by atthean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tradition is the bride's family pays for the wedding and the groom's parents pay for the rehearsal dinner.
2006-10-09 06:48:21 · answer #7 · answered by charbar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that's a totally dead thing these days! Because of both of those getting married are usually educated and working, it is the best that they pay for their own wedding. Gone are the times where they are dependent on their parents (and isn't that great?). If parents can and want to, some chip in a little.
2006-10-09 12:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tradition was that the brides parents paid for the reception, and the grooms parents paid for the band for the dance and the evening meal after the dance. But, with things being so expensive these days, people are doing just about anything!!! Good Luck with whatever you do!!!
2006-10-09 06:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! If both the bride and the groom wanna get married, then both sides should help with the costs.
I know in some cases, families might not want to participate in helping with the costs, that is why you shouldn't rely on parents for help.
Save your money and take care of your own wedding. If parents want to contribute, then GREAT!
2006-10-09 06:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by candy- capped 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋