can anyone help me?

Question

i feel like i am falling apart. i have a mental condition which causes me to have constant mood swings. i can be really paranoid and self harm a lot. i crave attention but at the same time can't talk to my doctor about my problems. i don't want to take my pills but i do want to get better. i feel so trapped most of the time. what do i do?

Answer 1

Why can't you talk to your doctor sweetie? Your doctor is the best person that can help you or even he can refer you to a Mental Health specialist. Pls talk to your doctor. Take care...

Answer 2

Taking the things you've said one at a time, if you need to communicate your problems and feelings, but don't want to tell someone, maybe you could try keeping some sort of diary, either written or maybe a video diary, so you are not keeping everything inside. Secondly, I think it is important that you take your medication, you would not have been given it if you didn't need it, and you won't get better without it. I know many people have issues with taking medication, but I don't, because my Mum has suffered from bouts of depression on and off for approximately 16 years (since I was 3), she has been on anti-depressants since then, and I know how ill it makes her when for any reason she has had to stop taking them, or change medication. So try and stop worrying about getting off the tablets, you need to think about the fact that right now you need them.

I hope this has helped, and I really hope you start to feel better soon.

Answer 3

i have a sever form of bi-polar i am also epileptic when i have been manic i have tended to be very histrionic (i used to HATE that f*****g label) but that's who and what i was when i was being at my most defiant i would think i really hated my G.P. so told him the bare bones of my feelings if you really aren't taken the tablets its like you have already admitted its a metaphorical two fingers up attitude
you cant get better without a support team FACT sorry but what you can do is say to your G.P YOU WANT A referral TO A MENTAL HEALTH TEAM you can then phone someone if you are tetchy or anxious its 2006 dont suffer in silence whats the point? the self harming needs addressing an assessment by a community nurse will see if you need to go into a psychiatric hospital for a while no its not like loonies hanging out of the windows with bars on them they are safe comfortable places where you speak to staff and are assessed whilst you go about your business

Answer 4

If you feel you need to do something more than take pills and see your doctor, why don't you seek out new interest to channel your energies. Maybe doing something active or creative will help you to focus your mind a bit more. if you feel isolated, you can join a group, singing, dancing, yoga, art class, etc. One of my pals who had a breakdown found the pills did her no good, but a healthy diet, acupuncture, a few months off work, herbal remedies, yoga, cycling, walking and lots of beauty treatments helped.

You should take your pills if they help to fix an imbalance, but if you feel they aren't working for you and you don't like your doctor, ask to see somebody different as you should never feel stuck.

When I was a student, a flatmate of mine self-harmed and had low confidence and no self-esteem. She got involved with music and art, although it was counselling and getting to the centre of the problem that helped her the most.

I hope that you work this out, and can find positive things in life help with the strain - you'll keep it together as you made the brave step in talking about it and really want to sort yourself out, and when you do you'll be stronger, not trapped.

Answer 5

As so many people have already said, talk to someone, particularly about why you cannot talk with your Doctor. What is it about the pills you don't like? maybe you have good reasons for self-harming and again you need to talk to someone you trust. Look, I have been a MH professional since 1989 and have worked in community Teams and still do. Nurses and SW's who work in MH are trained to listen and not to judge so if you can't speak to your Doctor try a voluntary agency/Community nurse. Whatever you do don't feel you are alone and take it from me that there are so many people who manage with your problems by seeking help that the only block is a psychological one that you can get over by talking. Please try it and good luck

Answer 6

There are usually help groups of people going through similar problems. In my opinion, the best thing to do is have people that know what you are going through to talk to, that way you know you are not alone and it is usually led by an expert. But a doctor may be able to find groups, or perhaps look online for these types of groups led by professionals, not just anyone. Give it a try. In the meanwhile having a close friend to talk to helps or parents, don't discount them, they can be good friends too.

Answer 7

Can you go to a counselling service and talk things through? This may get to the problem of why you feel bad and help to alleviate it. Pills help in the short term and you may find them useful to help you feel better in the short term. Your Doctor may know of a counselling service or you could ring Samaritans and ask them. There are also community events for people who have suffered mental illness, and you may find the social life helpful. Your local MIND will be able to point you in the right direction for this.

Answer 8

If you are unable to talk to your doctor could you talk to a counsellor.You may feel you don't want to take your pills as you see this as being in control.Its important you take the medication prescribed for you,keep a diary every day on how you feel inside but take the pills in the mean time and as the days go on and you make notes you will begin to see that they are helping and one day you can look back and see what you were In control and what you have accomplished.

Answer 9

This is the first step in crying out for help,I know how you feel ,i have had post natel depression and was taking prozac,i hated th e tablets though and prob wouldnt recommend them,you have got to try and be strong and work your way through this journey.Its not going to be quick or easy and i know its soooo hard when you are feeling like this but try and focus on all the positive things in your life ,i.e if you have kids or make plans to have girly night in or out of the house.I felt as if i couldnt go to the doctors as i thought it would confirm i was nutty but if you choose a good doctor to see ,one you know you can rely on, try and open up to them ,they have seen it all before and are not going to think any less of you.Also when you start to feel trapped go for a walk ,it sounds silly but it really works.Give your self goals for example a walk to the post office.I really hope this helps you ,i really do understand where you are coming from,good luck chick and stay strong !!!!!!!

Answer 10

Hi there
i can understand that this must be very hard for you.
i have a mental health problem as well
the best thing i do is to talk to someone, i understand that u don't want to go to the doctors but there are other organisation that offer free counselling, but to have more therapy you need to go though your doctor,
but if you want to talk to someone who is going though similar to you, feel free to email mex
Love to hear from ya
from Claire