How do you disipline a 2 year old? I dont think my son?

Question

understands I mean business when I say what I say, like dont touch that or stay out.
I have tried slapping his wrist,butt and even time outs...nothing works.

Answer 1

Do spanking. But at this age do it on his bare butt--just three or four light swats--but make them sting. And the key is to do it every single time there is misbehavior. Consistency is the key.

Answer 2

My son is a similar 2- year old. First don't let people tell you it's your fault. Some boys are willing to put up with punishment just so long as they get to do what they want. Here's what may help though. Choose the most effective discipline, some hate to be bored and timeout works while another is happy to sing to himself and a timeout won't work. Some have tender bottoms some havetough ones. Use one consequence consistently so they know what to expect. Don't let them see you sweat and get angry simply dole out the punishment because they did something wrong be very matter of fact about it. Consistency is the key. If you discipline them the same way every time they will get it tinto their heads that this WILL happen everytime they misbehave. My son will sit in time out like it's no big deal so zI had to resort to poppping him on the wrist. I have found that it sort of works because the first time it doesn't hurt that bad (so I don't feel that bad) but each following time(in the same spot) it hurts more and more until he gets the point. Then when he's heading toward something he's not supposed to I ask him if he wants to get popped and he usually turns the other dierection. Good luck.

Answer 3

WELL, I HAVE JUST READ ALL THE SOLUTIONS . I HAVE TO SAY A 2 YR. OLD IS TRYING TO FIND HIS WAY HIS PLACE IN HIS FAMILY . HE IS NOT DOING THINGS TO UPSET YOU , HE IS JUST TRYING TO FIGURE THINGS OUT . SO, TRY NOT TO TAKE IT TOO PERSONALLY ! NOT EASY I KNOW .
SO ALL THE THINGS YOU'VE TRIED DON'T SEEM TO WORK . WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU CONTINUE DOWN THAT PATH ??! MY CHILD IS NOW 17 .
LETS TRY SOME NEW THINGS :
1- FIRST I WOULD ALWAYS TRY TO REDIRECT.
2- ONLY A FEW WORDS AT A TIME HE IS STILL VERY YOUNG
3- MAKE SURE HE UNDERSTANDS WHAT YOU ARE ASKING/SAYING
4- A 2 YR OLD WANTS YOU TO INTERACT WITH HIM ALSO ITS IMPORTANT TO TRY AND MODEL THE BEHAVIOR YOU WANT .
5- PICK YOUR BATTLES ... A 2 YR OLD IS EVERYDAY GETTING CLOSER TO SCHOOL AGE AND THEN BEFORE YOU KNOW A TEEN...
6- MY BIGGEST HOPE FOR YOU AND YOUR SON ENJOY EVERY MINUTE , TIME PASSES QUICKER THAN YOU KNOW RIGHT NOW .
7- HANDS ARE FOR HUGGING NOT HITTING!
8- WHEN YOU ARE SURE HE DOES UNDERSTAND AND IF THE RE- DIRECTION ISN'T WORKING ...
9- MAKE CLEAR EXPECTATIONS AND CONSEQUENCES AND ALWAYS ALWAYS FOLLOW THROUGH.
TIME OUT IS 1 MIN PER EACH YEAR. SO FOR A 2 YR OLD 2 MINUTES.
10- JUST REMEMBER HE HAS HAD HIS CONSEQUENCE AND ITS OVER . PICK HIM UP AND LET HIM KNOW YOU LOVE HIM ALL THE TIME . ALWAYS!!
SO , MY DAUGHTER (WHO BY THE WAY WAS NEVER HIT) IS RIGHT NOW DOING HER DUSTING , AND SINGING WITH HER CD.
IS HAPPY , FRIENDLY , POLITE , AND JUST A JOY TO BE WITH .
MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR SON WITH MANY HAPPY AND LOVING MEMORIES.

Answer 4

I have taken care of many many many kids. If your son wants to do something and you don't want him to, then sugguest something else.

For example:

He wants a cookie before dinner. Ask him to help set the table instead and in reward after dinner he can have a cookie or two.

If he wants to stay up late......you describe his wonderful day tomorrow. Tell him the sooner he gets to sleep the sooner the day will come.

Try being nice to him....if that doesn't work be firm. Make sure your partner is full on with this too so he won't play one against the other.

Let's say you tried explaining nicely to him that he needs to eat his breakfast.....you tired everything........you simple say if you don't eat your breakfast then I'm going to dump it on your head. He thinks you're teasing but you have to dump it on his head. He has to know that you are serious and that you mean business. You have to be more strict abouyt things. If he wants a new toy, say you have to earn it. This has worked for me. Kids respect me and love me too because for each time they do something I reward them. They might not like the way you do things at first but you have to stay firm and keep on it.

If you have more questions, [e-mail] is my email address, I'd be happy to help you out.

Answer 5

Time outs DO NOT WORK at this age. For some kids, they never work.
Limit the number of wrong things your child can do. If there is any way to get rid of the things which encourage problems, then get rid of those things. Work on avoiding problems altogether. At 2, it is your job to work with him, not against him. He doesn't understand cause and effect properly yet.
By avoiding problems, I mean like, if he is always changing the tv buttons, then put the tv up higher. If he is emptying the fridge, stickytape the fridge closed.
Make your environment suited to his age, and as stress-free as possible. If you are both more relaxed, then you are both happier.

Answer 6

I don't believe in spanking. Try time out, a minute for every year they are ( 2 minutes for your son). You absolutely have to be consistent, you can't punish him for something then let him get away with it the next time around. It may take a while to see results, just be patient. Good luck to you.

Please don't spank your child. Think about it, would you like it if someone was hitting you, the answer is no. Besides you want your son to listen to you because he respects you, not because he fears you.

Answer 7

Express yourself in a firm, fixed tone. Show him what you mean...if it's hot, tell him don't touch, it's hot, then act it out, you know blowing on your hand, waving it around. If he still won't listen a swat on the hand or butt won't harm him if you're firm and state why you're swatting him at the same time. But usually a firm tone of voice and removing from the situation will suffice.

Some people will find this cruel, but I got my 2 yr old to stop biting people by biting him back, not enough to leave a mark or draw blood but enough to show him the discomfort.

Answer 8

You seem to be the one with the problem You have to be consistant and assertive. Watch that Nanny show on TV a couple times and see that you are the one wrong and make the corrections necessary. Terrible twos have started huh.

Answer 9

you need to be assertive do not give up after he trys again as he will soon realise that if he carries on eventually you will give in.
try taking his toys away and sitting him on the naughty chair for five minutes (my sister uses the bottom step) tell him that when he is good he can have the toy back you could try a sticker chart too. good luck

Answer 10

mamybe he doesn't think u have authority if you say i'm gonna count to 5 or else and u don't do what you said you would've done he doesn't believe you and thinks he can getaway with it.And if he says no to you than just whenever he asks u something treat him the way he treats you.Lots of good-hearted mothers see their kid cry and give in to themm but get down to his level and tell him/she u love them but they can't always get what they want