Ok, this is both of ours 2nd wedding. I was thinking something small and informal. He is talking 350 guests and wants me in a big white dress. Our wedding is only 8 months away. I don't care either way, but is it ok to have a big traditional wedding when it is the 2nd time around for both of us?
2006-10-09 06:31:17 · 20 answers · asked by JENNIFER G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Between the 2 of us, we have 5 kids. I think I found a dress, it is white and burgundy. It is traditional cut, but still not ALL white!
2006-10-09 06:40:12 · update #1
Your first marriges didnt work so people think a second one shouldnt be celebrated ,,,,,,,,,,,i say if you fill that you are madly in love with this guy,, you should show it and go all out and have a great day, make it as if it is your first ,,,dont let what happened spoil what you have now ,,,,,,,,,everyone make mistakes,,,,just forget the other marriages happened,,, apart from the kids if you had any of corse,,,,,,,,,
2006-10-09 06:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by chelsea 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it doesn't matter what size of a wedding and reception you have, another big traditional wedding would be fine. But keep in mind that all the guests have already bought you shower & wedding gifts the first time around, so I think a bridal shower should be out of the question. Just like when someone has babies - you get a shower for the first one, but not the others. Go along w/ your fiance, make this a big, fun event, just don't expect too much from the guests.
2006-10-09 06:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Convention may say you should have a small function, but I think you should do whatever you like! If you want to wear the white dress again, then you should. Eight months is not alot of time to pull off such a large wedding though, as you probably know.
If you really did want something smaller, I'm sure your fiance will meet in the middle and you could spend the extra money on a lucious honeymoon! Don't get talked into a big wedding if you're not into it. Basically screw convention and what nattering old ladies think. You only live once.
2006-10-09 06:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by sarahjane1973 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you can have any kind of wedding you want, but with 5 kids and a 2nd marriage for both, I'd go the smaller route myself. It's kind of expensive and silly to be inviting 350 guests...many of whom forked out big bucks to attend your first marriages! If I were you, I'd have a small wedding. You can have a big party later in the day or month, but without obligating the invitees to bring expensive gifts. Having a large affair for a second marriage seems like having a baby shower for kid number 5! A little excessive. By the way, your dress sounds lovely, and you can wear it no matter what kind of wedding you have! I wish you a happy marriage!
2006-10-09 06:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's tacky to have a big fancy white wedding for the second time. It's also rude to have a second bridal shower.....and register for gifts.
As I get older the more of these I encounter- I have been in or at the first wedding and then the person except to be treated like a princess and REDO the whole thing including get gifts the second time around. I actually lost a friendship because I refused to be in a friend's second wedding..... I was in the first... and I felt that that was enough. She apparently didn't and She had NO friends come to her wedding.... granted her first and second wedding was 3 years apart from each other.
Keep it small and fun- just family and close friends.
You don't get MORE Baby showers just cause you keep having kids....
2006-10-09 06:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they say white is traditional for the first wedding... i would chose more of a cream color and i think simple wedding are great. I would just tell him 'yeh honey ya know the less we spend on the wedding the more we'll have for our honeymoon.' He might change his mind. Besides you have a say so in it too. I would sit him down and explain to him how you feel and just see where things go, maybe compromise with something, Good Luck and Congrats!!!
2006-10-09 06:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by Kasie Faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I are also planning both our second marriages. We both have agreed upon a big wedding, our first marriages were small and we were very young when marrying. I think it's a way to start our new life together. I have children (3) and he is a great dad to them. I think it's a great idea for a big formal wedding if that is what you choose to do. GOOD luck and Congrats.
2006-10-09 06:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by razzyrascal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some wedding-etiquette "no-no's" for a second wedding, but ultimately, you should do whatever you're comfortable with when it comes to size or style! (It was my second, his first, so we did all the "usual" wedding things -- like traditional vows, large wedding party, bouquet toss, garter throw, etc. -- but we kept it to under 125 people!) Basically, most "experts" do suggest skipping the traditional bridal veil the second time around... but other than that, have fun - your way!
2006-10-09 06:57:36 · answer #8 · answered by bethiswriting 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is an older guy or woman. i'm specific that "feeling like a bride" is the least on her thoughts. possibly it is YOU the single that needs to experience like a bride and attempting desperately to fulfill your very own fantasies. A outdoors BBQ on a sundress is a appropriate wedding ceremony for an older couple for his or her 2d and 4th wedding ceremony. The time for white fluffy robes and veils over the pinnacle has long previous; her gown selection is actual super. as a question of actuality I commend mom and her sister for throwing an age suited/condition suited wedding ceremony quite than pretending to be virgin brides of their 20's. I recommend you step back, it is HER wedding ceremony and it truly is what she needs.
2016-10-16 00:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do whatever you want on your 2nd wedding. Everyone kept telling me for my wedding last year that I couldn't do this or I couldnt do that because of "tradition". I said - "Screw tradition - I want to do it MY WAY". And I did!
So there are really no set rules.
2006-10-09 06:35:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋