My bf and I have been together for over 2 years now, living together for almost 1. Things have been great, we are very close and have a great time together. He has been working 500 miles away for about 6 months now, but we see each other every weekend. He used to say that he was going to marry me someday, and I liked to hear it, even though I knew we weren't ready. Well.....I am ready now, and he isn't doing anything about it. It's not even the ring, it's the promised commitment I'm looking for from him. We are both in our late 20's. How can I let him know how important this is to me, without making it sound like an ultimatum?
2006-10-09 06:28:52 · 6 answers · asked by HotK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been married before, and I have two children from that marriage, so it's not about the idea of marriage to me. It's about the partnership and closeness of it.
2006-10-09 06:40:53 · update #1
I have been here ( and am getting married to the guy in three weeks!) and what I did was to have an honest conversation with him. It sounds as if you two are fairly close, so just be honest. He shouldn't take it as an ultimatum if you don't put it to him that way. Just say something to the effect of wanting to know if the two of you are on the same page or not. Hopefully he will be equally as honest with you and you will know where he stands.
Good luck!!!!
2006-10-09 06:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the hurry ? More marrages end in divorce than ever before!
are you in love with the being married? or are you in love with the man? Relationships are tough enough and if you rush into a marrage you run the risk of not having a happy marrage. I suggest you talk with your partner and openly communicate your feelings and then listen real hard to his answer. If you guys both love each other then take your time and just enjoy each other. If your marrage minded and he isn't but he says he still loves you and wants you in your life. You may run the risk of never finding a man as good as him if you move on. Love is not selfish
2006-10-09 13:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't push him. He probably has a lot on his mind with work and all. and if y'all have only been together for 2 years, in my opinion, it's still too soon. I say live with him (full time! not just on weekends) for atleast 3 years and then see if you still want ot marry him. I find that SO many people are jumping into mariage too quickly now a days. Dont get married (or delude yourself into thinking you HAVE to be married) just because it's the fad or the thing to do. think it over long and hard. Divorce is way to tough to get married because you "think" you are in love.
2006-10-09 13:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by daisy6570 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him. Ask him where he sees the relationship going. Let him say his piece and then if it's not to your liking say, I'm just not sure this relationship is for me anymore.
He could just be hella busy with work.
But if that's not the case and he is taking his sweet time while you are ready, it's not fair to you.
2006-10-09 13:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him wheather he is interested in long term committment or not, what is the reason to do so, wheather he want some time or he dont want any relationship with u or not. if he is not interested then u plan ur life wihtout him, may be with other or single, no need to stay single u can or might get better choice
2006-10-09 13:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by kruthi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to talk to him and ask him what his future plans are. See if he includes you in them. iF not then leave
2006-10-09 13:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by knifelvr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋