and I left him, but it still hurts. I know that I did the right thing, but how do you deal? I know all the standard "it takes time" and maybe I already know I'll just have to wait it out... I even went as far as taking another guy home with me (oh not some random guy at the bar) but we got here and I couldn't even go through with that... ugh this sucks
2006-10-09 05:56:47 · 18 answers · asked by hello_beautiful_222 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ouch!!! I am sorry. It does hurt and I have been there and it takes time and staying strong. Nothing will replace him, but you will realize you are worth so much more. Respect your self and look within and you will be able to move on. The stars have all burned out for him and he broke your heart. Taking someone home will not be the answer and if it does happen you will feel bad about yourself in the morning. It's not worth it. Find a good Vibrator and take some time and pleasure yourself. Hang out with some friends and keep your mind busy. Put all of his stuff away and have a good cry while doing it. You would be amazed what crying can do!! Good luck to you!!
2006-10-09 06:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by Niecy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. Yes, these things hurt. I can't really offer much insight beyond the "time heals all" cliché, but it happens to be very true - at least for me it has always proven true. No matter how much it might hurt, there eventually comes the time when it hurts less, and then not at all; other things become important, and the past kind of recedes into the distance. It's fine to look for distractions; it doesn't have to be another guy - it could be friends, family, hobbies; whatever works best for you. Eventually, another relationship will appear on the horizon, and whatever might have happened in the past becomes just another distant memory.
2006-10-09 13:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it different way. You are young and this is an experience that you live through it. Take it as a learning lession. I know it hurts because you feel he did not respected you. But now you may learn how to spot a cheater and avoid it.
Pick you self up and find some good guys out there.
BTW, don't do something stupid that you may regret even more later.
2006-10-09 13:02:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made the mistake of staying with my EX. It caused more problems and the hurt came back. I am proud that you left him, but be prepared for calls and them coming by. You need to keep busy to get your mind away, it's not easy never is, but helps alot.
I had my sister there for me and we spent our weekends together or with my other friends, keeping busy helps.
It's not going to be easy to get into a new relationship right away, i know from experience. However you did make the right decision.
It does suck, but your not alone. It's not easy to find someone new with that freshon your mind, take a 'me' break not a break like revenge, it will hurt you more in the end.
If you want to star dating ask your friends or family members (cousins) for suggestion of great guys. Odd as it sounds, but if it's someone they trust and have known they can also let you know of there background then jumping into dating someone you know nothing of.
2006-10-09 13:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont try and replace what you had with your boyfriend with some random guy.... YES... you have to take time for yourself. Give yourself a month, I bet in a month you feel like going out with someone again, or at least getting to know others. Good luck
2006-10-09 12:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very hard . I hope the first thing you did was confronted him not the girl. You deal with her last (not with violence) because I have been in this predicament myself . And it made me feel low and when I'm depressed i eat and i gained like 15 pounds in 3 days but i got over it. I didn't let the pass hurt my future.
2006-10-09 13:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by princess_cheta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wooooh Sally.... revenge is not the path to take. Why would you want to involve a third ...well I guess at this point it would be a fourth person into your ex relationship. They have feelings too???
Cool your jets and take time to breath and digest the relationship. Once you better understand it, the better partner you will be in your next relationship.
2006-10-09 13:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats great that mean you respect your self way to much to let your hurt ,make you have sex with someone else thats very respectful,you know how easy it is to just go have sex with someone,it say alot about who you are and how great of a person you are and will be for the next guy who might actually appreciate you,good luck
2006-10-09 13:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by spinininthemud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it does,but look at it this way if he cheats on you he will cheat on the rest.The other women is not better than you to him he just has no character or integrity.Take comfort knowing that you are his loss and he will regret the loss. don't go back with him when comes back b/c going back prevents our lives from moving forward and that's what you want to do move froward and find a love all your own.
2006-10-09 13:03:40 · answer #9 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U NEED TIME FOR U..... I KNOW THAT IT HURTS LIKE HELL BUT IN TIME THE HEART WILL HEAL.... DONT JUST BE WITH ANY BODY WAIT AND GET OVER HIM AND FIND U SOMEONE THAT IS GOING TO LOVE U AND TREAT U RIGHT... SOMEONE THAT IS NOT GOING TO CHEAT ON U.... THERE ARE SOME GOOD MEN OUT THERE... THEY ARE NOT ALL MARRIED..... KEEP LOOOKING AND HE WILL FIND U.... GOOOD LUCK,,,,,,
2006-10-09 13:00:55 · answer #10 · answered by TANNER GIRL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋