Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 1yr. & 3 months and we argue a lot. He told me that if I went to a school dance that we would be over forever. I went and we aren't broken up. I love him to death but is he doing this to control me or do mental damage? I'm confused, Please help.
2006-10-09 05:50:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why didn't he want you to go to the dance? Were you going with another guy or by yourself? No one has the right to control you, especially your boyfriend. I'm glad that you went to the dance anyway, but don't let him push you around. If he continues, dump him.
2006-10-09 05:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah...think about What Kind of Boyfriend/Relationship you want....: Healthy? Positive? Happy??? Better each day? growing? loving? Nurturing? Helping each other to become Better people? Understanding? Communicative?
=T...sounds like you don't have many of these things.....!! why stay w/ someone who is controlling, negative, mean, weird (who cares about a dance!! and why make threats?) either help him to change, and if he doesn't, Leave him. if he doesn't want to, or doesn't know how, it doesn't matter. Leave him. u can become Healthier, Happier, and Positive on your OWN, better than WITH him.... keep that as a sign of a good relationship: if u are happier, healthier, and More Positive in your life, everyone around u will see and support you; ur family, ur friends, everyone. but if u are unhappy, stressed out, controlled, sad, etc, than nobody will be happy. =T..good luck, and be strong.... be a great girl, woman, friend, daughter, sister, and girlfriend so that u can find a great guy, man, friend son, brother, and Boyfriend!!
2006-10-09 12:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe a lasting relationship is not for you at this point in your life. Shop around and get all that out of your system before trying something more permanent. Don't play though. Say how you feel. Don't let anyone try to control you. If that happens, where can you say you are with your own life? You can't. Now it's school dances. Next : No family ties. Next, who knows
2006-10-09 13:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by Jayme C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is doing it to control you. and while you may not see it, that threat is an early sign of his controlling behavior. clearly because you said "school dance" your young, and so is he (i hope) which means that a 1 year relationship seems really long to you, but if you can honestly say that you argue a lot, you should reconsider being in the relationship with him. yes you say you love him. but do you love the threats he makes about breaking up with you? do you love the arguements? do you like the fact that he tried to control you? think about this before the next time...
2006-10-09 12:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by Lin B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is jealous...not trying to be controlling....
i've been with my bf for 2 yrs and 3 months..and there are going to be arguements...just shouldnt happen all the time and both of you have to know you love each other and try to understand one another. And ask him why would he break up with you for something like that? was he jealous or just worried you would find someone else at the dance? I mean would you like him to go to the dance alone without you? every lil thing matters in a relationship/...its both ways...
2006-10-09 12:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by Cutie77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems like he is a controlling person . Stay away from him . He does not sound like the type of person you would want to be with.
2006-10-09 12:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to control you. guys like that arent worht being with, because then that one time you dont do what they want, they'll get soo angry and end up hitting you, which turns into a beatin. and that my friend is no good. id deff talk to him about it all and get out...things may seem ok now but it will all lead up to abuse....
2006-10-09 12:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by Pheen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what exactly do you love about a control freak ??you look at him with wishful eyes.you can't wish the man you want him to be into existance.
2006-10-09 12:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS TRYING TO CONTROL U... WHATEVER U DO DO NOT ALLOW HIM TO BE CONTROLING WITH U.... IF U DO HE WILL HAVE U CRAWLING THE WALLS.. LOOKING CRAZY, TELLING U WHO U CAN AND CANT SEE... DO NOT LET HIM DO THAT TO U.....
2006-10-09 12:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by TANNER GIRL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him, he is trying to control you.
2006-10-09 12:56:27 · answer #10 · answered by babybeast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋