My husband is 100% Italian and I have a mother-in-law who recently told me ... and I QUOTE ... "If I lived with you, it still wouldn't be enough time for me. I need more time with you".
We live 40 minutes away and see his family every weekend. We have a large group of friends and we have to cancel/bow-out of other events because we are always with his family.
We have a 1 year old and I am nervous about having more children because I don't want the issues of "time together" to escalate. I want a large family but this is holding me back.
My husband travels every week for 2 or 3 days and I don't think that limiting the amount of time we spend with his family (say to 2 weekends or 3 short visits a month) is too much to ask.
My in-laws are very sweet but are also "chameleons" when it comes to getting their way. I don't want to hurt anyone but I can't allow the time constraints to continue in fear that the issues will only get worse.
I need some solid advice please!
2006-10-09 05:50:11 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Your HUSBAND is going to have to do this for you...being a good wop, he probably won't ...but you are going to have to have it come from his mouth so the parents can't blame you...I am sure that he can just tell them that you also have family and need to see them also....do'nt let them put the guilt trip on you ...but like i said..bottom line, hubby is going to have to do some changes...take it from a good wop lol
2006-10-09 06:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell ur husband that u need 2 broaden ur circle, socialize w ur friends and people ur own age.... tell him ud like 2 host a party for ur friends one weekend.... or go do something fun w just the 3 of u.... families are great, but u should limit ur intereaction to match interaction w ur peers........ let him break the news 2 his family, otherwise this will cause dissention btw the 2 of u and that would be way worse..... communicate ur thoughts and wishes 2 ur husband...... he's a grown man now, with a famiy of his own 2 think abt..... it's time to live ur lives 2gether
2006-10-09 06:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by costellos_creation 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to take this is, either move out of state. Or start liking the family routine. Remember theres nothing wrong with family.
2006-10-09 06:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by palo007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋