My husband and I havebeen together for 3 and a half years, we've lived together for 2 years and we got married a month ago.
I'm 21 and he's 26. I'm ready for a baby and he still isn't. I've asked him when he'll be ready and he said in due time. The only definate answer I got out of him was that maybe in a year or two. We've talked about it and he definatley wants children, 3 of them to be exact, I just don't want to wait for another year or two. There is no reason for us not to, financilly. We own a four bedroom home, and are in a good situation as far as having bills paid off. The only thing that might set us back a little is the fact that I need to get a new vehicle within the next couple months, but that really won't make that much of a difference.
Am I just being impatient or is he just being difficult? Any suggestions (serious ones) will be greatly appreciated.
2006-10-09 05:49:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I say slow down a little honey, you're only 21. Enjoy your life a little before you get tied down with children. Don't get me wrong, I'm a mother of three and love them with all my heart and soul, but it's a lot of work and sacrifice.
Although it's probably not what you want to hear - my advice? Wait a year, you're both young - you have plenty of time.
You could always volunteer with big sisters, you'll be doing something wonderful and you'll make a difference in a little girls life and it will give you a feeling of fulfillment.
Best of luck, Marilyn
2006-10-09 05:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's kind of what my situation was but we went ahead with having the baby. he's a cute little guy but my husband and i wish we would have waited a while not because the baby is a pain in the butt but cuz we don't get to spend as much time together anymore. our baby is 3 months old right now and we've been out maybe twice since he was born, the rest of the other time the baby takes up with his poopy diapers and crying to be feed or talked to. i guess its up to u guys what u deside but think about it, you're only 21... good luck either way!
2006-10-09 06:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. Enjoy being married and each other first. There's lots of time to have babies and once you do there is no turning back. Having children is wonderful and something to definetly look forward to but in the meantime enjoy the here and now. Your life as you know it will never be the same. When the time comes it will be just that more exciting for you both.
2006-10-09 06:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by sunnyca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young. There is no need to rush having children. You haven't really been married that long. I think you should just be patient and wait a little while. Enjoy some time together. You should consider going to college or something while you can. There is plenty of time to have kids.
2006-10-09 05:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're being impatient. In time you'll have a child. Dedicate time your your marriage before having a child. Maybe he wants you to himself for a year at least. Dont rush things and don't pressure. When the time is right, it's right. Learn how to be with yuor husband alone, because after your first child, you won't be alone until that kids moves out. :o)
2006-10-09 05:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by Maryjane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're being impatient. Enjoy the time and freedom you and your husband have now. It all changes when Baby comes along. I'm 33 and I just had my first child (he's now 4 months old). I'm glad I took the time to get the traveling done I wanted to as well as finishing off both of our educations and starting my business.
2006-10-09 05:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think money is not an issue in this case. which is actually a good thing.if he is not ready mentally, give him time. it would be better if he wants it too. if in a few years he still feels the same, i would suggest he seek counseling, to see if he is just scared or really does not want children. do not be upset because you feel one way and he feels another.
2006-10-09 06:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by she-girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just relax. you'll know when the time is right.
2006-10-09 06:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by redreverser 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋