Till today (3.2 yrs of age) my baby cries even during night, she wants her mother to be with her. Her mother can't do anything, everytime the baby wants her mother. Does joining her in nursery/kinder schooling helps. Advice requested.
2006-10-09 05:40:50 · 10 answers · asked by sri 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I don't believe in preschool. It's nothing but a glorified daycare. She doesn't need alot of socialization at this age--she needs mom and dad. Wait until kindergarten to send her. Preschool doesn't do anything for anyone. I never went and I was always well socialized and a straight A student.
2006-10-09 05:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm a daycare teacher and a mother of 2. If your toddler, not a baby anymore, is still attached to her mother than please let her be. If you force this child away from where she wants to be she will not just "get over it". Parent's do this all the time and then the daycare/preschool teacher has to deal with a child who usually cries non stop til picked up by the parent. This is way more traumatic on a child then parents realize. Your telling the child that he/she can't feel safe and happy. No joke! She may need some more mommy time than other kids her age and there is nothing wrong with that. Maybe when she moves through this little milestone she may want to go to preschool or daycare to play with other kids. Maybe mom can take her on a tour of one to see if she is interested. Ask her if she'd like to stay while mommy ran to the store. If she demands mom doesn't leave or cries she's just not ready and leave it at that. There will be a day when she tells you she is fine and insists you should go. Be patient with her needs for now.
2006-10-09 07:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by Baby girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is momma's boy but he's been in preschool for a while because i'm a single mom and i work during the day. It has been the best thing for him he has friends and he's learned so much his social skills are fantastic. if the mom doesn't want to leave the baby all day every day there are mothers day out programs available where the child stays for a few hours one day a week.
Nursery school does help it gives the child a independence that mommy's can't give all the time. THe child will cry in the beginning mine did but only for a few days and afer I would call to check he was fine. I think you should try it just to see you'll never know til you try.
2006-10-12 13:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by ABF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a common problem when the mother stays at home all day with the baby. What I would suggest is either getting a group of your friends or other women with children of a similar age and getting play dates together. This would give you time to socialize as well as help socialize the child. Eventually when you can see your child is diong well with the other kids, maybe once a week or once every other week going out with a friend and leaving the child with a trusted babysitter. After that, maybe try doing a few hours of daycare per week. By that time your child will be used to some other people and may do well.
2006-10-09 07:23:35 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it can help. My kids went to a preschool that was two days a week from 9-12. It isn't day care. It can help your daughter to learn to be confident and make friends. Plus, she will be starting school in a couple of years, preschool wil help prepare her for that. If you aren't comfortable with a preschool, try setting up some playdates with someone you know. Or maybe have an aunt or grandmother take her for a couple of hours. You need to have a lillte time to yourself and she needs to learn that she will be ok for a little while without you. If you send her to preschool, just be sure to act excited about it even if you are nervous about leaving her. She will sense that and it will make her more nervous.
2006-10-09 05:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Creating a confident independant child starts at home. She has to learn from you and her mother that she can do things on her own, with your supervision. Even if its learning to fall and stay asleep.
Putting her in preschool will be helpful for her social skills and other development areas, but it is not an alternative to raising a well rounded child from home.
She is old enough to start some form of daycare or preschool. :)
2006-10-09 05:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your baby is suffering from separation anxiety. You can't join her in nursery school. They won't let you. You must take some time to get her used to being alone. Get her a night light if she is afraid of the dark. Say a prayer with her that God will send angels to be with her.
Good luck
2006-10-11 09:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by greylady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 00:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will help her develope socially and gain more independence you should put her in preschool now. the child obviously has seperation anxiety and to stop this habit she needs to be around others, but dont spoil her and come running everytime she cries, you'll just be feeding into the habit
2006-10-09 05:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
congratulations. you've ruined your child. just kidding. there is always some separation anxiety when you separate a child from it's mom, but normally, they chill out. relax. they're much tougher than we give them credit for.
2006-10-09 05:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by no_wait_hes_spartacus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋