My best friend is getting married in less than 2 weeks.
Her fiance and his groomsmen had been growing apart. (They were still stuck in the college drunkeness & he was ready to grow up & have a real job.) They kept telling him that he was throwing his life away, etc. & that he needed to go out and party. They would hit on my friend too.
Saturday they said they had planned his bachelor party. They took him to this bar& had some beers & watched some football. Then the bill came & they made him pay his own bill at his bachelor party. After that he decided to go home. Pretty shady, huh?
The next day the $hit hit the fan. They all got in a HUGE fight and the groomsmen pulled out of the wedding.
After this my friend & her fiance decided to ask other guys to be in the wedding, including my boyfriend. Now, he and my friend's fiance aren't real close, but I asked him really to do it as a favor to me. He doesn't have a problem with it.
What do you think about this?
2006-10-09 05:30:51 · 10 answers · asked by Laura 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I went through a very similar situation, but it was with my husbands brother. To this day, I do not like him one bit...
Anyways, one of my best friends, who was also a bridesmaid had a boyfriend who stepped in and helped out where my husbands brother didn't and it worked out great! It showed not only me and my husband but everyone else at the wedding, who the real man was and what a pathetic ****** his brother was.
I think your boyfriend and the other guys who are stepping in are GREAT and such a big help to your friend and her fiance on there day. Really, from experience, it means so much!
2006-10-09 05:47:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anne Marie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the groom had some really crappy "friends" who weren't really friends at all. I think it's great if he's able to find people who are willing to stand in at the last minute like that. If they are all fine with it, there's no problem.
BTW, the groomsmen should've paid for the bachelor party. It's common courtesy, but then, I've never known many college guys to be big in the common courtesy department.
2006-10-09 05:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your boyfriend is a real man. Bravo for him stepping up to the plate.
Try to explain to your BF's fiance that these things happen and that it's better now that he learned who his friends really were than in a real crisis situation, like needing money if they're short on rent or a ride home from the airport.
2006-10-09 05:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by cara_007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the groom's "friends" are a$$holes in disguise. Hitting on the bride? Jerks. It's a good thing they aren't in the wedding. In a few years from now, the groom will realize this and be thankful for your boyfriend being there.
2006-10-09 07:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is totally unnecessary to have people in your wedding that you are not close with. A wedding is a very special ceremony that should be shared with only the closest friends and relatives. They can have a beautiful ceremony with only their closest bridemaids and groomsmen. It doesn't matter if the numbers of the wedding party are uneven. These are modern times, and people are conducting their ceremony according to their likes and needs. As long as they have each other and a few people who truly love them to witness their marriage nothing else should matter.
2006-10-09 05:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by MegMaher 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What horrible friends and coo-dos to your BF for stepping up to the plate. At the end of the day, I am sure that the couple wants their closest friends and family to be there but at the end of the day, it really is about them and what is going to make them happy.
If the groom's friends can't get with the program, grow up, and stop being selfish, they shouldn't be a part of that day. Tough love time for those friends ...
2006-10-09 06:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your bf should be given special; credit for stepping up. The groom's people weren't even worth having considered in the first place. The biggest problem for young people is picking friends and knowing if they truely are
2006-10-09 05:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by waggy_33 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow- what a bunch of jerks!
Sound awful and very preplanned to screw him over. It's just terrible.... I never heard of them all doing it. You normally just have one jerk but she apparently got stuck with flock of them!
You and your FI are wonderful people for stepping up and helping them. You guys are what real friendship is based on.
Sounds terrible but she might want to have people watch for them at the wedding so they don't sneak in and do something horrible!
2006-10-09 06:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has the right to make their own decisions
2006-10-09 06:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What I think is why do care what other people think there is nothing you can do about it.
2006-10-09 05:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋