I went out with a guy I've known for a while a couple of weeks ago. We ended up kissing and one thing led to another. The only thing I don't like is that he seems really into french kissing... he doesn't kiss without tongue AT ALL, not even at the start of a kiss. I don't mind it occassionally, but I'm not a great fan, doesn't do much for me and sometimes makes me want to gag. Do I tell him?! Also, he gave me oral sex after about 10 mins of foreplay... I don't like this either as it makes me feel pressured to orgasm, and the thought of him kissing me after having his face down there really turns my stomach. I didn't want to say anything because he was trying really hard and wanted to satisfy me before himself. He kept going for ages and I just couldn't relax! Does anyone else feel like this or am I just being stupid?!
2006-10-09 05:18:10 · 29 answers · asked by hmmm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks to those of you who have given considerate and helpful answers. The rest of you - why comment if you're just going to be abusive? I feel the need to clarify that both of us are mature adults (not 12 year olds!) and we've known each other for a few months.
2006-10-09 06:08:45 · update #1
No im the same way! I love the feel of lips on my lips but when they want to get all sloppy and open mouth its a total turn off!! I don't want them kissing on me after they went down on me either! VICE VERSA!
2006-10-09 05:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I'm with you on the kissing thing...too much tongue all the time is bad thing. As far as the oral sex...what's wrong with having an orgasm?!?!?!? I was kind of weirded out about kissing after oral but I got used to it. And guys usually find it hot if you kiss him after he's done that. If you aren't comfortable with it then you shouldn't do it. It's a very intimate thing and some people are just too self conscious to do it...i know I was at first but if you don't stink down there guys love it! My advice....try it once or twice more, sit back, relax and try to enjoy it. If you are still uncomfortable be honest with him and tell him how you feel about it. Good luck
2006-10-09 05:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by Sydney'sMommy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel the same way when it comes to tongues and kissing. I prefer a little tongue not allot. Most people don't know how to kiss right int eh first place then add the tongue, its a mess..lol..
As for oral sex, I cant agree with you on this one. Its the best thing ever. Not to sure how much experience you have with sex, but if you don't like it ask him not to do it again. Don't ever let anyone do anything to you that you don't like or want. Speak up to him!
2006-10-09 05:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can understand the french kissing thing, I like it but it can be overdone or sloppy and that kills it. For hygenic reasons, I can understand why you don't want to be kissed after he went down on you. But, not enjoying oral sex??? I think you just need to relax, if you are all tense which it sounded like you were, then you won't enjoy it. Just like with regular sex, if the girl tenses up then it is hard to get things going and it isn't enjoyable, but once she loosens up, you can slide right in and everyone is happy! Just relax, maybe you just aren't ready for oral yet. Try giving him oral first, maybe that will help relax you.
2006-10-09 05:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by hawksfan17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things that sincere Christian should avoid is not limited to what the Bible is specific in banning. As an example, see this statement unequivocally: "The marriage is honorable among all marital bed and spotless, because God the judge fornicate and adulterers." (Hebrews 13:4) Even non-Christians and those who do not know anything about Bible correctly conclude that the verse prohibits adultery. This and other biblical texts make it clear that God condemns sexual relations between a married person and another that is not their legitimate spouse. But to say of two single people who practice oral sex? Many teenagers say there is nothing wrong with that, because it is not sexual. Can a Christian considered oral sex as something pure? Hebrews 13:4 and 1 Corinthians 6:9 God disapproves state that both adultery and fornication to (the Greek porn). What exactly is fornication? The Greek term involves the use of the genitals with intent immoral, both natural and so pervert. Includes all forms of illicit sexual relations outside of marriage approved by the Scriptures. Thus, it includes oral sex, even though many teenagers around the world have been informed, or come to the conclusion, that this practice is acceptable. The true Christian does not guide his way of thinking and their actions by the opinions of "conversations error and misleading of the mind." (Titus 1:10) They follow the highest standard, that of Scripture. Instead of looking for excuses to practice oral sex, they believe that biblically it is fornication, or porn, and train according to their conscience. - Acts 21:25, 1 Corinthians 6:18, Ephesians 5:3.
2016-03-18 07:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not being stupid though i like french kissing i don't like the idea of oral sex. This guy had done it to me once and i felt so gross out i didn't even want to kiss him so i told him to back off he didn't talk with me anymore but i was cool since he wanted me to do oral sex on him and i refused. Now my current BF i'm glad he doesn't approve of oral sex i know i will not want to be with him if he said we both should do oral sex on each other. About that guy i don't think its such a good idea in seeing that guy anymore if he's gonna want to constantly have oral sex with you and i know thee are certain standards female have and slso rules some may want guys doing freaky stuff with them others my not but like i said your not being stupid your living by your own standards and if that guy can't live up to it just go your ways ther's loads of fishes in the sea.
2006-10-09 05:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by Randisha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're just not ready to be that intimate with this guy.
I think you should tell him that perhaps things need to slow down a bit. Tell him you're not a big fan of oral sex and that you guys could try other ways of playing together.
But be sure to be honest so he doesn't feel like it's his fault or that he's not doing it right.
2006-10-09 05:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teach him how you like to be kissed.
TELL HIM IF YOU ARE UNCOMFORTABLE IN ANY WAY. Guys aren't good at taking "hints", you'll have to tell him outright.
If all else fails; start dating a better kisser, lol. There is no such thing as not liking french kissing. You just need to hook up with someone who does it very well; someone who doesn't attack you with their toungue. Tongue is supposed to be used sparingly. The kiss should be gentle, affectionate, and slightly arousing; take it from someone who knows. There's nothing worse than being tongued to death by an overly zealous (and horny) guy. The problem is, too many men don't know how to enjoy kissing; they see it simply as a path that must be taken in order to arrive at intercourse. Pity.
2006-10-09 05:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's just whatever floats your boat. If you don't like oral then by all means tell him, or just tell him you like something else better, you could have him play with your breasts and use his hand or good ole sex. as for the kissing try turning your head and get him to kiss your neck or other places on your face. try little bites as well that will show him sometimes to keep is tongue out.
2006-10-09 05:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by Beeper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not being stupid... Moderation is key in just about anything. It's probably not necessarly to "tell" him you don't like certain things, but if you gently pull away when you've had enough and switch to doing something else, it should be a signal to him if he's an astute person.
2006-10-09 05:39:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain in some ways. I like to french kiss but i have a limit b4 i feel to gag and as for oral sex i don't speak to anyone that eats crotch, I just can't think what satisfaction people get out of it and wanting to kiss afterwards i donot want to taste my own crotch. He might have just eaten someone elses crotch and want to kiss....how GROSS is that!
2006-10-09 05:28:52 · answer #11 · answered by Nicolette G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋