recently i found out that my close friend was laughing and supporting those who believed that i am stupid.. he has started behaving as if he is great. he is ignoring him for no reason. he just wants to be with those 'new' group of people who are similar to his innate character- laughing at others., thinking he is great, those who consider they r cool and others are not.
i think the trouble started when i started calling those who waste time and not study are fools. we r in medical school and i beleive my friend dies not have the attitude to be a doctor. but the problem is, i am unable to cope with his new behavior as we were friends for almost 6 years and then this happened...
your suggestions are valuable for me to cope with this new situation where i am always thinking about that and unable to do anything else at all!
i hope you can help.... :-)
2006-10-09 05:11:39 · 6 answers · asked by good med stud 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Since when do they let children in med school And I dont think this person aint your friend
2006-10-09 06:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by jcs_one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is also trying to survive in your new environment and is realligning his alliance to ensure it. You should also be doing the same. When you are young and have learned your coping skills in elementary and high school, you will have a tendency to attempt to bend others to your will and may get a certain amount of success at this. In a bigger pool, and in a job situation, you will all undergo another molding to a certain character called the professional code of conduct.
It is another learning process. You may have already some awareness to this and they dont yet. Just allow them to grow into it.
Wait for your old friends to catch up with you. Meanwhile dont insult them by calling them fools. Think it but dont say it out loud. You might need them on some assignments. In med school you need allies for those projects. Apologize if you have to.
2006-10-09 12:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Betrayal is always painful, especially when it comes from some one that you really care about or love. I am not sure how long you guys have been friends, or how far you go back, BUT , we all make mistakes. As you r friend is going thru this period, what ever it may be, I would just try to make myself scarce to them. As the friend goes on behaving in this way ,sooner or later I would imagine they might have the awakening that, "wait, where is___________(fill in your name!) I miss them , I haven't been hanging out with _______ lately. Then maybe they will come back to you and you can say, "yeah, I've missed you too, but,man,I been hearing things that really made me feel bad ......" This can be your opportunity to let it all out !!! How you feel about them laughing at you, their priorities, their sincerity to you as a friend...... If this changes things around then good ! If it doesn't, well, maybe they weren't as true of a friend as you thouhgt and you are better off !
2006-10-09 12:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by crazartgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can confront him (if you've known him for 6 years, you shouldn't feel uncomfortable)
or just slowly distance yourself from him and ween him out of your life. Focus on your studies and try not to let his childish actions get to you. It sounds like he may be intimidated by your ability to do as well as you are. Like you said, it's medical school. It's stressful enough than to deal with an idiot so-called friend like him. is he your only friend? If he is, it's time to make new ones. Try to not let his childish behavior affect you and think about the future and what a good doctor you are going to become. Good Luck
2006-10-09 12:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by Aidge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know it hard work studing to be a doctor and you dont need this new problem with this friend, maybe God trying to tell you something as well as showing you something you keep on studying and let you friend do his thing dont let him drag you down go on and be the doctor God means for you to be he ll figure it out for himself good luck
2006-10-09 12:47:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't sound to me like he is your friend... People will come and go in your life, I think it might be time to let him go out of your life and find some new friends.
2006-10-09 12:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by David 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋