He said he loved me for the first 6 months and then changed his mind after going to a lot of my friends weddings...He says that he shows his love in other ways but he can't actually say he loves me. I'm desperate as I've waited 4 months now. He lost a parent and I think he does love me but can't let people in.
2006-10-09 05:01:06 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It means he is insecure. There may be something about the whole "Marriage" thing that he cannot deal with and his reservations are for that. It may also mean he is not ready to commit to such a relationship. I would be careful about someone who says he love you and then 6 months later cannot say those words. It sounds like he is trying to back out of getting married so you may want to sit down with him and talk it over and find out what is going on inside his insecure man head.
2006-10-09 05:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by Raide UK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has reservation's because something happened in his life and he is sitting back trying to figure out what he is going to do with his. He is questioning everything he has done and if it were right or wrong. Everyone goes through this usually around the age of 25 year's old. We are looking for something more or a different answer and are just not sure some times how to get it. So if we put a wall up and protect ourselves we are not in our eyes able to get hurt. Pushing you away is wrong, but I think that he does need his space and if he does love you he will find you. It may be a year or it may be 10 year's and you may have moved on with your life, but that is the chance that he is taking while trying to find himself. You can either stay around and be his friend and his companion or you can let him go. It's hard and it hurts but this saying goes along way!!
"I let go of a lover who took a piece of my heart, I prayed many times for forgiveness and a brand new start"
You will find it. Just keep looking and maybe it is him!! Good Luck!!
2006-10-09 05:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by Niecy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he is not ready for the type of love you are. I have been there. Do not try to read too much into this because it is obvious on its face. I know it may be hard for you to see, but he does not seem to be ready for a committed relationship. If he knows you are and he does not want to lose you but does not want to committ, he will tell you things like this. I am not saying he is a horrible person, just confused and not up to what you are looking for.
So, you either live like you are or move on. Sometimes moving on is actually easier than living in the relationship limbo stage.
2006-10-09 05:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by lady_reed_03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably all the pressure of going to the weddings. Maybe thinks you want to get married right away yourself and he is inwardly freaking out. You said he was saying he loved you all the time before, so I'm assuming those times were prior to all the weddings you guys attended. He probably just doesn't want to say it now and get your hopes up and try to push him into marrying you. I say let it go and relax, because guys do show they love you in all kinds of ways. But they just can't express their feelings all the time, especially if they are feeling stressed or think it might get them a result they aren't ready for.
2006-10-09 05:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. Maybe he loves you, but is having some issues with himself right now. It's HIM, not YOU. So don't ever blame yourself.
All I can tell you is to ask yourself, do you really want to waste your life waiting around for some guy who can't decide if he wants to be with you or not? Who goes back and forth about loving you? When you could easily go out and find a guy who could treat you like a princess and not be afraid to show his love for you? Think about it.
2006-10-09 05:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know from experience that people try to push you away when they need you the most. Sometimes people need to know that you are there for them.
My advice is that you tell him that you are there if he ever needs to talk. Trying to force him to talk won't work. If it was me, I would break up with him, but maintain a steady, strong friendship.
You have feelings too. You should not be forced to stay in a relationship when you are being mentally and emotionally abused! Cause I mean hey, YOU CAN DO BAD BY YOURSELF!
But remember, the final decision is up to you. Only you know what you all have been through.
2006-10-09 05:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by irRHOsistible 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like there is a problem there deep under the surface - alot of the time, men can not commit to people and find it hard to imagine marrying you - it happened to me - and I waited 5 yrs cause he was the right person for me - however, you have to do what you think is right, if you love him, and he is worth it - stick it out and see if things change - but I doubt it - you need someone who will love you and is not afraid to show it - might need to leave him and move on, as horrid as that sounds - true love is out there for everyone.
Good luck
2006-10-09 05:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by schmushe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has "reservations" about his love for you then perhaps it is not truely real- I mean if he really was IN LOVE with you then he would know it and want you to know it as well. Maybe he does have love for you but he is just not IN love with you- in which case you have to decide if you want to wait around for him to figure this out or move on.
2006-10-09 05:04:39 · answer #8 · answered by S'Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he did love you but doesn't anymore. You should get rid of him, unfortunately. I know it hurts like hell. On the other hand you may be right and he may love you, in which case you should still leave him. you know what they say, 'If you love something let it go, if it comes back its yours and if it doesn't it never was.' This saying is 100% true.
2006-10-09 05:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by Caroline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill sista men have a hard time saying those 3 words. I always say show me dont telll me. Give him time he will come around. I still believe in love if its there he will shine
2006-10-09 05:05:17 · answer #10 · answered by prizelady88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋