I went with a girl to homecoming last weekend and everything seemed to go very well. Yeserday, while talking to her friends, who by the waqy are really cool and i highly doubt they would lie to me about it, found out that she has been saying **** behind my back and that she dislikes me. Before i blow up, let me say this: I am and honor student and captain of the school swim team. She is not very athletically, socially, and aceademically inclined (to put into nicer words). So basically, I went out with a loser. Before askeing her to homecoming, i went in wiht an open mind thinking that she could be a really cool person if i got to know her. During the time before, during, and sfter the dance, I was reall, really nice to her. I gave her my jacket when she was cold, i was really sweet, and i helped her with things. I also defended her when my friends made fun of her. Her friends think that she is very stupid for doing this, cuz they think im the best she ever gonna get. What shud i do?
2006-10-09 04:53:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel like ive been lied to the whole time and unapprecated for all the nice things. I really tried to make it work and did all that i could to make shure she had a good time. WHy the backfire?
2006-10-09 04:54:36 · update #1
Don't get on her case about it. Just leave it alone. If she doesn't realize that you're a great guy now, she'll suffer for it later. Trust me, her friends are going to get on her case about it. Friends don't let friends make dumb choices, right? Even if she never realizes that you were the one doing her the favor, don't worry about it. If you're really as great as you say you are, you'll definitely find someone worth your while.
2006-10-09 04:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by Inya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, if she's a loser because she has a few close friends, doesn't play a sport, and isn't a straight-A student, then dump her. You obviously haven't given her the benefit of the doubt, and are immature to see that there may be a reason for these things: maybe she hurt her knee and can't play sports. Maybe she has a learning disability. Maybe she's shy, and doesn't care about having 100 friends or being popular. She sounds like someone I'd be best friends with, and probably deserves better. Do her a favor: leave her alone. When she goes off to college she'll blossom, and just because you're obviously in high school and she's not "cool" there doesn't mean that she'll be "uncool" forever.
2006-10-09 05:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'd like to say props to you for looking past the "loserness" and attempting to get to know the girl underneath! That takes a real man. If what her friends are saying is true, then I'm sorry that's a shame. But you should confront her about it, because you never know what could be motivating her friends to tell you these things, jealousy? Or they think you could do better with one of them maybe? The only way you will truly know is if you talk to this girl. And ask yourself, did you have fun with this girl at the dance, or did she act like she didn't want to be there or ungrateful? Look at your experience with her and judge for yourself. If it does turn out to be true though, don't let this experience jade you. You should always look underneath a person's exterior to see what kind of person they really are. Congrats again for figuring that out so young! Good luck honey!
2006-10-09 05:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by Lolo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from what you just wrote about this girl, that she is not this or that and how your this and that, how can you say that you were nice? maybe she felt that you were only going out with her as a charity case and that's why she is acting this way. and what makes you so sure her friends are telling you the truth? some friends they are.i would ask her if she has really said those things and if so why. also make sure when you do talk to this girl you tell her what"friends" of hers told you this. so she knows how to choose better friends.p.s. for an honor student you need to learn how to spell.
2006-10-09 05:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its sad that you choose to listen to her friends first without even talking to this girl. She deserves the right to know what is going on just as much as you do. Her friends could be trying to sabotage her. You should NEVER assume anything. What if this story was vice versa? How would you feel? And just because you are "more" popular then her doesn't mean you are better then her at all. Grow up!
2006-10-09 05:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay before you flip out on the girl, let me explain something to you about teenage girls and their so called friends. They are dirty, mean and backstabbers and will lie like a dog about a girl behind her back on to get a guy to break up with her or not like her anymore, because they like the guy.
Why i know this.....
1. I use to be a teenage girl.
2. I have a 15 yr old daughter.
My daughter has some "friends" who claim to be her best friends but everytime she gets a boyfriend they seem to go after him. They wont even like the boy till she does. Then they make up stories, and tell the guy all kinds of lies till he breaks up with her and next thing you know one of her friends is dating him.
So dont believe anything you hear from a girls so called friend.
If you are concerned about it talk to the girl directly with out her friends around then you and her confront the friends togeather.
This worked for my daughter the last time.
Dont ever believe anything you hear from a girls so called friends without verifying it. Get your facts togeather before you make any assumptions.
I promise if you fall for this it will make you an easy mark to do it to you again. You will get a reputation of playing girls, i know because the 2 guys that did this to my daughter now have trouble finding dates because they believed rumors and now no good girls want to date them all they can get is the trouble makers.
So if you dont want to end up with the drama queens and trouble makers research before you make a decision.
2006-10-09 05:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't trust you... why would a winner like you go out with a loser like her (she probably doesn't even like herself). The question is what do you WANT to do? You might talk to her tell her you had a good time and ask her if she did and ask her to be honest and tell the truth. If she asks why, tell her you respect honesty above all else.
2006-10-09 05:02:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol, this is just like an episode of fresh prince. She just went out with you to gain popularity and what she was probably saying behind your back is that your stupid for not seeing it coming. Sometimes losers like her think that all smart people like us are nerds.
2006-10-09 05:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by vex_dreamer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may of only gone with you to say that she got a date to homecoming. If you were so nice to her then she has no reason to go say things behind your back. You should ask her nicely why she did that. If she lies to you and says she did no such thing, then she doesnt deserve your trust.
2006-10-09 04:58:58 · answer #9 · answered by Clover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her she just wanted to make you look like an *** because she wants to be more sociable i guess. She wants people so say "oh shes the girl that the captain of the swim team miss treated." I guess she wanted to dis you because she thinks she could get better. ( she prob. can't)(lol) Well you sound like a pretty great guy and shes a dumb *** for acting like she did and doing what she did to you. Hope you find a better girl because shes not worth it.
2006-10-09 05:09:46 · answer #10 · answered by I love you! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋