How do i tell her????????????

Question

I am the maid of honor at my cousins wedding and my cousin and i are really close because we grew up together and she is like a sister to me but recently since she is in Virginia studying at UVA college taking 18 credits trying to graduate early its her third year she has put a lot of the planning on me.I am in my first year of college and taking 13 credits and struggling because of trying to help her out with planning , go to school, and working for my moms small company . I took three test last week and was unprepared for two of them and may have failed because of this. I also missed my first two quizes in math class and am falling behind in my english/writing class and am feeling very overwhelmed.I dont want to hurt he feeling but helping her plan a wedding for 215 people is getting to me?

tried telling her more than once but she will cry and tell me how stressed out she is and how she cant do it without me.

Answer 1

Honey, when did you become the wedding planner?

Take a deep breath and step back a moment. Look at what you have to do in a day. How much time do you have after your responsibilities have been met?

Take a look at what she is telling you you need to do. If you can take care of request A, then tell her that. Also say, "But, hon, theres no way I can get to request B and request C this week, ok?"

When she cries just tell her you'll get request A taken care of. The end. Repeat.

Make a list of everyone who can help her put the wedding together. If her mom can take care of the caterer, and your mom takes care of the flowers, and Aunt Jane books the church, and Uncle Joe books the reception hall then you can go about your business. Send the list to her. It is her wedding. Have her contact the folks and ask for help. Most people love a wedding and are pretty honored to be asked for help.

Get some rest, catch up on your classes, and make the time off for the wedding stress-free. Speak to her kindly and respectfully. She may want to move the wedding date to a more manageable time. See what you can do.

Answer 2

You need to tell her again that its to much for you to handle.
If she starts to cry and say she cant handle it then tell her you will help her find someone else to help with the plannning but you cant handle this and school anymore that you are failing your classes trying to do this and its not fair to you.
See if your mother or her mother or any other famly members will pitch in and help.
If money is no problem see if you can get in touch with a wedding coordinator to finish up.
It may not cost as much since you've already done most of the work.

Answer 3

Just tell her - the easiest way to say it is "Listen, I know that you have a lot on your plate but I am trying get my college career off the ground and I need to devote more time to school. This wedding is really your responsibility. Can you ask anyone else to help out with the planning?"

Answer 4

Hey, its seems like you have a pretty close knitt family. Ever think of gettinh your mom, her mom, and other aunts involved?? Uncles too. Everyone can be in charge of something different, so in the end everyone will have a light load. And what about the grooms family?? they can pitch in to. The maid of honor is supposed to be there for moral support and to accompany the bride and help her make decisions, shes not supposed to plan the whole thing herself.

Answer 5

If she is really your friend she will understand and respect your point of view. You can only do so much for her. It's her wedding, she has to do most of the planning and work. Not you!

Answer 6

get more help with the planning or simply tell her.......schooling should be more important IMO

Answer 7

GET MORE HELP.