OK... so my ex and I, who still love one another dearly and were convinced we were one anothers "happily ever after", broke up shortly after our 1yr anniversary due to a number of factors:
1. We live an hour away from one another
2. We work completely different schedules, and his includes working Saturday nights. Hes in music (the biz, as well as being a DJ on weekends) I'm a 9-5er.
3. I didn't feel like I was getting what I needed (as far as time/attention are concerned), because most of his time is occupied by his job. His mind is always working. I was getting angry and jealous (even though it took me a long time to come to terms with that) and acting out on it, even though I'm not the jealous type.
Theres also a 9yr age difference, but that was never an issue.
So how do you make it work? Any ideas?
it got pretty ugly for a while, and there's a lot of pain, but we jsut started talking again, and both know that we love each other, just don't know what to do about starting over
2006-10-09 04:41:18 · 7 answers · asked by JESSICA S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This sounds so familiar to what I just went through. I can't begin to tell you fast enough how things aren't going to get better. As long as music is his business, he will never put you first. He will never have time for you. And you will always find yourself wanting more. Save yourself the time and the heartache and walk away now.
2006-10-09 04:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I don't mean to sound rude, but you two really try hard, my relationship is messed up too, we have been together for over 2 years now, we both have screwy schedules.....I have 2 jobs, one is 9-5 the other is from 11pm-4am, we live 4 hours away from each other, we have been growing closer and stronger everyday....they are in the military...possibilty of being deployed, service before self...always that is what we hear, so basically the military before our relatioship...that is hard but you know we work very hard to keep our relationship strong and loving, sometimes maybe you need to make the extra effort to make it work, have either one of you thought about moving??? Oh yeah and there is an 8 year difference between us, I am 27 and they are 19, it can work...
2006-10-09 04:46:35 · answer #2 · answered by radioradioradio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about compromise but men can be so stubborn/self-centred that it is often the woman who is more open to compromise. Is he prepared to cut down on any commitments (maybe non work ones) to spend more time with you? A very important rule to remember is that men cannot be changed. A man may mellow out a bit but he will not change, once a workaholic always a workaholic so you have to be prepared to accept him as he is or not be with him, unfortunately.
2006-10-09 04:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by Caroline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is the answer to everything. All you ever need is love,
communication and understanding. That's what I figured out so
far. If you are down, you need to get up and start doing something with
your life. Don't need to be shy, be straight forward and allways say what
you want and expect from the others.
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2006-10-09 04:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by jjs l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of you two or the both of you are going to have to compromise and find out which is more important even though neither of you should have to sacrifice your careers or what you enjoy. If you can't do that then you might as well stay ex's
2006-10-09 04:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband 24 years older than me, so this shouldn't be a problem for couples. and if he loves you, then he will find time with you, it doesn't matter how far you live...
2006-10-09 04:44:30 · answer #6 · answered by Tomorrowalwaysbetter! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him
2006-10-09 04:43:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋